For those who don’t obsessively follow celebrity baby news, Sarah Drew, who plays April Kepner on Grey’s Anatomy, is pregnant with her first child. She’s due in January and is one of those hopelessly adorable pregnant women.
And after she announced her pregnancy she also told the media that they’ve decided to do something totally unthinkable.
Okay, I don’t think she’s crazy, but as much as I try, I cannot wrap my head around the idea of waiting. I mean, I know women do it all the time and love the suspense, but personally I cannot imagine waiting that much longer. Maybe it’s the control freak in me, maybe it’s because I don’t really like surprises, but I have to know as soon as I can. If I could’ve done the blood test at 14 weeks, I totally would’ve. As it is the next 14 days might kill me.
(I feel like this post is basically jinxing my upcoming ultrasound and now my baby will probably be facing in any direction that does not let us learn the gender, because he/she is related to me and being obstinate is totally genetic.)
Everyone has asked us in the past few weeks if we’re going to find out the gender, and the answer is always a resounding yes. For me, it makes everything feel even more real. And maybe I won’t need it to feel more real once I can feel the baby and look visibly pregnant. But once I know the gender it’s not just my baby, it’s my son/daughter. It means we can discuss names in earnest and actually settle on one instead of having to fight over two. It means I have time to daydream about the future and whether or nor we should start saving to pay for a wedding.
To me, finding out the gender of the baby is almost as exciting as finding out about the pregnancy in the first place. It changes planning and preparations. It’s important for some early post-birth decisions (no, I’m not hosting a circumcision debate here) because there’s a big difference in having a hypothetical conversation and having a conversation about something that is going to happen, and does need to be decided firmly and in advance.
That and well, the baby clothes. I mean, how can you have the proper number of hair bows and/or hats if you don’t know in advance which ones you’ll need! The idea of a bare headed baby makes my heart sad.
All kidding aside, I know that this is a decision that no one makes lightly and I’m sure plenty of you think I’m crazy for ruining the surprise. But for us, finding out the gender is something we decided a long time ago and something we cannot imagine not doing now that we’re so close to knowing.
Did you find out the gender in advance? Why or why not?