Being pregnant with your own child is quite an experience — one which I will never fully understand. But what about being pregnant with someone else’s child? That probably another experience altogether. But what if you were pregnant with someone else’s child and that someone else happened to be your daughter? Can you imagine? Kristine Casey can. The 61 year old gave birth earlier this month to daughter Sara Connell’s baby boy.
Sara and her husband had tried to have children with no luck. Sara had failed to bring an IVF pregnancy to term upon two different occasions. The Connells had tried natural child birth for several years before turning to IVF. It seemed as if they were running out of options.
Until Kristine Casey offered to be the surrogate mom for her daughter and son-in-law some ten years after menopause. Doctors prepared her uterus for the pregnancy with hormone treatments. The soon-to-be grandmom became pregnant with her grandchild after the second round of IVF. And 39 weeks later, she gave birth via C-section.
I read about the story over at BioNews. According to the article: “Dr Susan Gerber, the doctor who delivered baby Finnean Connell in Chicago, said: ‘The surgery itself was uncomplicated, and the emotional context of this delivery was so profound.’ ”
Reactions have varied. Some have found the story to be “unsettling.” Others see it as the ultimate act of love. I see it as a unique situation. Every family is different. And I’ve certainly known instances where either the husband’s parents or the wife’s parents become too involved in their children’s marriage. Such over-involvement is usually a bad thing as the couple who is trying to start their own family can’t escape the nuclear one into which he or she was born.
So the only reaction I would have would come from that standpoint — namely that I would hope that the grandmother’s willingness to carry her daughter’s child was not a sign of such over-involvement.
But, like I said, it’s a unique situation involving a unique family. No one knows the dynamic within that family except for the family itself. So if it works for them, who’s to say it’s not a wonderful thing?
After all, thanks to Kristine Casey, Sara Connell and her husband got something they were desperately trying for — something that seemed out of reach — a baby boy.
What do you think? Does the concept of a grandmom carrying her grandson weird you out, or are you okay with it?