Oftentimes, when we are dating someone, we flatter him or her by telling them all of the things that we love about them. We talk about them to our family and friends, identifying a series of traits and qualities when asked how we know that they are the one we want to spend our lives with. For many, we are often initially drawn to someone for their looks but it is their character, the traits that come together to make them who they are, that often keep us there.
As we continue to venture through the month of giving thanks, I thought it would be nice to reflect on the qualities our spouses have. Not the ones that annoy us or cause us to engage in an argument of some sort but the ones that allow our hearts to fill with gratitude realizing the gift we have in our spouse.
In celebration of the season of thanks, I asked Babble readers and bloggers to share a character trait they are thankful their spouse has. Their answers are sure to touch your heart and hopefully prompt you to reflect on some of the qualities you are thankful that your own spouse has. My hope is that in our reflections, we will be prompted to not only to give thanks but to express it to our spouses. No need to wait until you are seated around a Thanksgiving feast to express your appreciation.
Take a look at 10 character traits and qualities Babble Bloggers and readers are thankful their spouses possess.
"A Characteristic I Am Thankful My Spouse Has" 1 of 11
Are there traits you are grateful for spouse possesses? Find out 10 character traits and qualities Babble Bloggers and readers are thankful their spouses possess.
His handiness 2 of 11
One of the biggest things I admire about my husband: he's handy. No matter the problem, he finds a way to fix it. I'm the opposite of handy. In fact, I'm the klutz who breaks the things that my husband eventually fixes. Perhaps that's why I admire this trait of his so deeply. In this photo, he has a Christmas tree in a baby trailer. Our son grew out of the trailer years ago, but my husband uses it to lug things around, like the Christmas trees we purchase from a farm just a few blocks away.
A helpful nature 3 of 11
"I'm thankful for my husband's sincere helpful nature. He will go out of his way, at any time, to drop everything to help someone in need. And luckily for me, this also includes me on those days when I am about to lose my mind with work and the kiddos! Also? I'm extremely thankful I married a man who loves chocolate as much as I do!"
A giving person 4 of 11
"My husband is incredibly giving. He is always willing to help anyone and everyone. He has a big heart. I'm so thankful for him!"
~ Kristel Acevedo of Glowing Light
"His Sense Of Protection" 5 of 11
"I am grateful for my husband's special way of making me feel protected. Although I think of myself as a strong, alert, and fearless woman, it tickles me to know he cares and is truly concerned about my safety. We spend a majority of our day apart and not one day goes by where he doesn't call, send a quick text, or ask if there is anything I need. And when we are together, it's as simple as letting go of my hand and walking on the curbside, or stretching his arms and making a way for me as we walk through a busy crowd. But my most favorite, is when he whispers in my ear "Are you ok?" Sometimes just the physical presence of his arms around me can make me feel safe and protected."
~ Karla Fountain @fountk
A commitment to family 6 of 11
"There are so many things I'm thankful for when it comes to him, but I'd have to say his commitment to building a loving, stable home life with me and for our daughters is at the top of the list. In my opinion, a happy home life is everything. My husband is a family man in every sense of the word - from ensuring we have regular family movie nights to making sure he and I have regular date nights to stay intimate and connected. He provides for us, he protects us, and he keeps smiles on our faces. I feel blessed to be his wife."
~ Diamonte Walker @liberatedmommy
An "awesome sense of humor" 7 of 11
"I'm thankful for my husband's awesome sense of humor, as well as his patience to put up with my crazy ideas and my constant shenanigans."
~ Jess Elaine of The Jess Elaine
An ability to love without wavering 8 of 11
"I could write an entire post on my gratitude for him — his patience, support, calm disposition. But I think the thing I'm most grateful for is simply his love. It's one thing that never wavers, and one thing I never question. I like to think that we're both living in gratitude of our very obvious love, because it's the steady heartbeat of our family."
His determination 9 of 11
"I am so thankful for my husband, Mario. He has battled cancer and God chose to heal him, he helped make our amazing son, he took a leap of faith with me to become a stay-at-home mom, he is a determined provider and amazing daddy. I love him dearly."
~ Jennifer Medina
A caring spirit 10 of 11
"My wife, Stephana, and I have been married a long time. We've been through a lot and made it through what I call The 7 Rings of Marriage. One thing I believe that has helped us is my wife's gentle, kind, and caring spirit. I am so thankful for this, and how her spirit shines through in all situations."
A forgiving heart 11 of 11
One of the characteristics I am most thankful that my husband has is his ability to freely forgive. I know the importance of forgiveness and the freedom that comes with it, but sometimes I struggle to let things go, forgive and move on. I say I forgive but I hold on to the hurt and anger (it only hurts me, I know). My husband, however, will not hesitate to forgive.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)
My husband lives this and I am working to always love in this way too. When I make a mistake or hurt him, he doesn't hold it over my head or keep a tally of all of the things I've done wrong. He forgives.
What is a characteristic you are thankful your spouse has?
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