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10 Outrageous Backhanded Compliments Men Have Given Women

Sometimes men try to be complimentary, but they are just insulting. I recall being “complimented” on many occasions in college by Mr. Big Man on Campus. While in his passenger seat, he looked at me and said, “You know it’s getting cold outside.” I nodded. It was indeed frigid in Amherst, Massachusetts. “I may need someone to cuddle with. Maybe you can be the lucky one,” he finished.

Yay, me! I can be the lucky gal out of dozens to lay beside him and cuddle just because it’s winter!

No, thanks, dude. That’s what I wish I would’ve said to his backhanded compliment. Instead, I took him up on his offer. We had our winter fling, innocent and brief. And as soon as spring came, he didn’t need my sack of bones anymore!

Yes, he often “complimented” me on my shape by pointing out that I was so skinny that I had no curves.

I am not the only lady who has received backhanded compliments from the opposite sex. Here are 10 of the worst compliments women have received by men.

  • If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say … 1 of 11
    Secret

    If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all. That's what these women wished when hearing the following backhanded compliments.

     

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  • You Don’t Look Your Age 2 of 11
    Wrinkles

    "You don't look as old as you are." That's what Mo heard from a man. She not only felt confused but also a bit insulted. This compliment really does depend on how old the man things you look. If he thinks you look 21 and you're 35, yes, awesome! If he thinks you look 35 and you're 21, not so awesome. He's a trickster!

     

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  • You Are Thick 3 of 11
    Beauty Mark

    Depending on the culture, stating that a woman is "thick" can be an insult or a compliment. In the Dominican culture, it is most definitely a compliment. Curves are celebrated. In the American culture, not so much. So, when a guy told Dana, "You have thick thighs," she did not appreciate his statement. 

     

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  • You Have an Exotic Nose 4 of 11
    Nose

    I have a nose fetish, so I get why people take note of the noses of others. But is having an exotic nose a good thing? That's what Ericka wanted to know when a man said, "You have an exotic nose." I smell a rat!

     

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  • Your Eyes Look Like Poo 5 of 11
    Bad Smell

    A friend of mine on Facebook said this about her odd compliment. "He liked my eyes because they were the color of diarrhea. Then he said, 'I didn't mean it like that.' How else can you mean it?" My sentiments exactly, Kira. Poo is not sexy!  

     

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  • You’re Too Thin 6 of 11
    Crackers

    When will men ever learn not to talk about a woman's weight ... ever? Jenny wishes they didn't. She told me that a guy once said to her, " You're so skinny. Do you just eat crackers?" That would infuriate me because it's assuming the woman is unhealthy. I don't know how she didn't crack his face. 

     

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  • You Have Poodle Hair 7 of 11
    10 Backhanded Compliments Women Have Heard from Men

    Guys really have a hard time with a woman's hair. They often don't even realize when we've had it cut or colored. So, imagine how shocked Elise was to learn that her hair looks like a poodle? Yup. A guy once said this of her naturally curly and gorgeous hair, "Your hair looks like a poodle." Cute dogs, but not a compliment! 

     

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  • You’re Just a Pretty Face 8 of 11
    Cat Eyes

    When a man says, "You're pretty," that is indeed a compliment. When he says, "At least you have a pretty face," it doesn't feel like one. Sara heard this from a man, and she was dumbfounded. What? Does she suck that bad in all other areas? Sheesh! 

     

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  • Is That You, Lil’ Kim? 9 of 11
    Lil Kim

    When Krista was hit on by a white man, he thought he would compliment her by comparing her to Lil' Kim, the rapper. Have you seen Lil' Kim? No offense, but she's not the most obvious beauty in Hollywood. So, compliment or insult? Questionable.

     

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  • Is That a Weave? 10 of 11
    Wild Hair

    Like I said before, many women take pride in their hair. So, men, don't ask to touch it to feel for extensions. And don't ask if it's real or not! Angy had a man ask if her hair was a weave. She turned the backhanded compliment into a compliment because her hair is indeed hers. 

     

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  • You Look Better Now 11 of 11
    Attitude

    When you haven't seen an ex or a fling in a while, you always want to impress. So imagine how Supriya felt when she heard this instead: "'It's never a good time to say this, but you look really great … now.' He stuttered and finished off with ' I mean you lost weight.'" Ouch! Talk about a backhand right to the head. Men, when will you ever learn?  

     

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