I would consider my husband one of my very best friends. He knows me better than anyone else, has gotten me through some hard and happy times, and I feel like I can be totally who I am with him. I think having a friendship can be an important factor in a long-lasting and healthy relation ship and marriage, but there’s a fine line.
I’ve written before about certain things I won’t do in front of my husband. Many comments suggested that in doing so, I was not being my true self and how horrible that must be for me. The truth is, that is being my true self — I have always been private in certain situations and will continue to do so because that is me and my loving husband respects my personal boundaries.
Just because two people are in a loving and committed relationship, doesn’t mean it should be without boundaries (within what ever boundaries the couple sets, it’s different for each person and couple). I think when when it’s boundary-free you open your marriage up to potential issues like your partner and you feeling like you’re just roommates. Yes, we live together, but blurring the lines between spouse and roommate is where you may start to see some issues creeping in. When that happens, you could increase the risk of falling out of love, losing interest in each other, and that can quickly lead to hurt feelings and potentially the end of your relationship.
When you live with someone, there’s a big difference between being in a committed relationship verses living with a roommate and getting it mixed can cause issues. Click through to read the 10 signs you’re treating your spouse more like a roommate:
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Devan is a freelance writer living in Toronto, Ontario with her husband, three kids and expecting baby #4 at the end of this year. Read more from Devan on Babble and “like” Accustomed Chaos on Facebook!