10 Songs for When You Desperately Want Love

want loveThere’s a certain itch I feel sometimes, just under my skin, that sinks its way down deep into my heart and from there starts coursing through the blood in my veins until my entire body is aching with a desperate desire to be loved. Fully, completely, deeply, with total abandon, unconditionally. Not desperately, or in a clinging way. But in a triumphant, ecstatic way. It’s a longing for a love that’s universal, that penetrates all time and space, that heals all wounds and sees all things. It’s a hope for a communion with what is godly and what is beautifully, tragically human. It is like so totally profound, dude. Beyond.

When that happens to me, as it happens occasionally, if I am near a computer, I must immediately listen to Elton John’s “I Want Love.” It’s a soothing balm in a fiery moment. It calms me and cools me, and then I can continue on. I know I’m not the only person who’s faced from time to time with needing a musical Epsom bath, so when you find yourself in a similar spot, turn on this playlist and know the one thing that is true, courtesy of Rihanna: we all want love. The playlist starts with intensity and then mellows, and if you listen to it, you will, too.

1. I WANT LOVE by Elton John

“I want love, but it’s impossible
A man like me, so irresponsible
A man like me is dead in places
Other men feel liberated …”

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Robert Downey Jr. is a DREAM in this video. Everything.

2. BEING ALIVE from Company by Stephen Sondheim

“Somebody, crowd me with love,
Somebody, force me to care,
Somebody, make me come through,
I’ll always be there,
As frightened as you,
To help us survive
Being alive …”

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I DIE EVERY TIME. This is my favorite version, but there are many.


“In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
Can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far
To change this lonely life …”

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Serving up epic 80s video realness with a side of curly hair!


“I work hard every day of my life
I work till I ache my bones
At the end I take home my hard earned pay all on my own –
I get down on my knees
And I start to pray
Till the tears run down from my eyes
Lord – somebody – somebody
Can anybody find me – somebody to love?”

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5. WE ALL WANT LOVE by Rihanna

“We all want someone there to hold
We just want somebody
We all wanna be somebody’s one and only
We all wanna be warm when it’s cold
No one wants to be left scared and lonely …”

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RiRi being sweet and vulnerable and delivering truth on a tray.

6. HEART OF GOLD by Neil Young

“I want to live,
I want to give
I’ve been a miner
for a heart of gold.
It’s these expressions
I never give
That keep me searching
for a heart of gold
And I’m getting old.”

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Oh dear sweet Jesus I simply cannot with song BUT I WILL BECAUSE I MUST. You are taking me there, Neil! Mr. Young on getting old.

7. SOMEONE TO LOVE ME by Mary J. Blige

“Looking for someone to love me
I’m looking for someone to love me
Yeh-yeh-yeh-yeah …”

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It really is that simple. Mary will have no more drama!

8. READY FOR LOVE by India.Arie

*TRIGGER WARNING: You are about to feeeeeeeeelllllll feeeeelllliiiinnnnnggggsssss* I hope you’re wearing yoga pants, because you may need to modern dance a little bit.

“I am ready for love
Why are you hiding from me …”

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The girl with the dot in her name is always on point! Don’t worry, we have reached the apex of bittersweet pain with this one, and now we begin our delightful ascent back to okay/ready to handle the day.

9. I’M READY by Tracy Chapman

“I want to wake up and know where I’m going
Say I’m ready
Say I’m ready …”

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Thank you Mother Tracy for your Earth Love Readiness. Play this one on repeat for a little bit. Let it sink into your bones. Because now it is time for joy again.

10. I WANNA DANCE WITH SOMEBODY by Whitney Houston

“Oh! Wanna dance with somebody
I wanna feel the heat with somebody
Yeah! Wanna dance with somebody
With somebody who loves me …”

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Queen Whitney, may she forever in heaven reign.

If you like this, you’ll also like my list of 10 Sweet Songs for Those Waiting to Find Love. Happy listening, lovebirds.

Photo credit: Flickr user Camdiluv

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