10 Terrible Reasons to Stay in a RelationshipKrishann Briscoe
Most of us have been there. We are in a relationship and despite knowing it isn’t right we stay. And not only do we stay, but we try to justify our rationale for doing so. Although some relationships are worth fighting for, others might be unhealthy or may have simply ran their course. If you are in a relationship that isn’t right, ask yourself why you are staying. Recently, YourTango shared some of the worst reasons to stay in a relationship. Here are some of their reasons as well as a few that I believe are also bad reasons to stay:
10 Terrible Reasons to Stay in a Relationship 1 of 11
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They really love you 2 of 11
The person you may be with adores you. They adore you so much that you can't help but wonder if anyone else will love you as much as they do. The problem is, they really love you and while you care about them you don't quite feel the same way.
You don’t want to hurt their feelings 3 of 11
You run the risk of hurting someone even more if you stay with them simply because you are afraid of hurting them or being the bad guy. Be honest about your feelings now rather than later.
You don’t want to be alone 4 of 11
Not wanting to be alone is a selfish reason to stay in a relationship. Think about how you would feel if the person you were with only stayed with you because they were uncomfortable with being alone.
Everyone says you two are perfect for each other 5 of 11
Everyone except you. You might look like the perfect couple on the outside but you are in a relationship with each other which means your happiness is important. Don't stay simply because everyone else thinks you are perfect for one another.
You like their family 6 of 11
His mom is so sweet and you finally have the sister you always wanted. But you aren't in a relationship with his family and they can't keep you two together. Staying just because you like his family is a bad idea.
You share friends 7 of 11
You worry what will happen if you break up. Your circle is close, the two of you share friends and you can't imagine going to events and always running into your ex. Still not a good reason to stay. Consider enlarging your circle and making new friends or not attending all events until you feel more comfortable.
You made a promise 8 of 11
You told him you loved him and would never breakup with him ever. And then the butterflies wore off and you realized that some of his bad habits were deal breakers. I get it, promises aren't meant to be broken but being honest now can lessen the likelihood of a broken heart later and/or allow you both to start the healing process.
You are afraid you can’t do better 9 of 11
You may need to do some self-reflection and work on your self esteem. Not only are you doing yourself a disservice (especially if they aren't good relationship material) by being in a relationship you don't want to be in, but you are doing the person you are with a disservice (particularly if you happen to think they are a great catch just not for you). By staying with them you just might be keeping them from being with someone who will love and value them. You may also be preventing yourself from being with someone who is right for you.
You don’t want to start over 10 of 11
You've invested a lot of time in the relationship and don't want to go through getting to know someone new. Better to start over now than down the road when you realize that you can't stay in a relationship you aren't happy being in.
Your children 11 of 11
Opinions will vary on this but children are smarter than we give them credit for. They know when their parents aren't happy or if something is wrong. Your children deserve to be raised by parents who are happy and emotionally sound. Ending a relationship doesn't mean both parents can't be there for their children.
Sometimes relationships aren’t right because you are dating the kind of person that you should be running from. Other times it just doesn’t feel right. They might be nice and kind but that doesn’t mean they are right for you. Breakups can be painful but so can being in a relationship that’s wrong for you. For more expert insight on bad reasons to stay in a relationship visit YourTango. Do you agree with these reasons? What are some other bad reasons to stay in a relationship?
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