It’s funny how sometimes one of the hardest things for you to share can somehow become something that you so freely talk about. I am a firm believer that a sense of freedom comes with having the courage to tell your story. When I shared 10 reasons why I was thankful for a second chance at marriage I was so touched by the positive responses I got from people who had gone through a divorce or were in the process of going through one. Despite divorce being so common it can sometimes be hard to not feel like you are the only “failure” out there when it comes to your marriage coming to an end. For me, the choice to end my marriage was easy. The positives that have come out of my decision far outweigh the jokes about me having an ex or the prom picture that haunts me to this day.
For others it may not be or have been so easy. But what I’ve come to realize is that for many of us going through a divorce or having gone through one, no matter how easy or how hard, there is a period of time where we buy into a lot of crap. The crazy thing is that we know a lot of it is crap and still, somehow we managed to get sucked in. Today I am here to tell you that you are not a failure as well as 11 more things you may have falsely bought into:
If this doesn’t apply to you good for you. If it does I hope that upon reading this you feel a little less alone and perhaps more “normal.” For a long time I bought into some of these lies as did people I know who had gone through what I did. But what I didn’t do was allow them to keep me from living my life and building a future for myself and my child. When you are going through a divorce people will say a lot of things. No matter what you do people will have something to say. It is up to you to filter through it deciding what you want to hold on to and what’s not worth giving another thought. Relationships can be tough but I found someone who I want to navigate all the tough stuff with. And we are doing just that. One of the things that helped me most was surrounding myself with people who loved me for me — people who could help me in the moments when I found myself wanting to buy into those lies again. People who knew that they were just that – lies.
Your ex was wrong about you. YOU were wrong about you. You’re awesome and you’ve got it going on. Just thought you should know.
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