When we first started dating our spouses, the butterflies were non-stop. For many of us the frequency of butterflies dwindled while the feelings of love remained. Then we got engaged and they returned as we walked around hand in hand with our fiancés excited about the new chapter of our lives with them. Again the flutters became less fluttery until of course, we said I do.
For some couples the honeymoon period was the height of marital bliss. Those first few weeks, months, and years were some of the happiest for couples. Still on the high from getting married arguments were few and far between and comprise felt so easy “sure honey, whatever you want.” “You pick.” “No you pick.” And then life got real, the responsibilities grew and you found yourself tested in ways that everyone said happened despite you perhaps thinking you were the exception. Things such as job losses, the birth of a child, or other outside stresses can all cause the butterflies in your stomach to cease to fly and the sparks that once filled your marriage to go out.
And while the causes for a loss in spark vary from couple to couple the reality is that many couples struggle to get it back. But perhaps it is simpler than we think. What if getting the spark back in your marriage doesn’t require you to move mountains but to make just enough effort to bring back the butterflies and get the spark going again. Here are 12 ways to get the spark back in your marriage:
What are other ways that can help a couple get the spark back in their marriage?
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