I’ve said it before and I will say it again — words hurt. Sticks and stones also hurt but unlike cuts and bruises that eventually heal, the sting from an ill word can last a lifetime. Words hold great power. While they can lift and build people up they can also tear them down reeking destruction. Glance back over your life and while there are a multitude of moments that stand out, I imagine there are words and phrases that pop into your head as well. There is a saying that “people will forget what you did but they won’t forget how you made them feel.” Our words have the ability to conjure up various emotions and feelings, and even after apologies have been said and a request for forgiveness made, the memory doesn’t fade. Because the reality is, when it comes to what you say, people don’t forget. And some people will remind you of what you said long after the words fall from your lips.
Recently I read an article on The Huffington Post that identified words that could ruin one’s marriage. I wanted to share some of them with you and decided to incorporate some of my own, some shared with me by colleagues. I even reached out to some of my friends for their thoughts. The fact that we were able to give some of our own examples suggests that we have either heard or uttered these words ourselves.
I share them with you not in an attempt to make you feel bad or remind you why you should be mad at your spouse. Rather I share them to help serve as a reminder that the saying think before you speak still holds true.
We all, myself included, say things out of anger and frustration. But somewhere along the way, hopefully we come to the realization that nothing good comes out of using our tongues as weapons. Long after the rush of dropping an F-bomb (aka $#*k @#%!) subsides are the remains of a further damaged relationship. Here are 12 words and phrases we should never say to our spouses:
For a few additional words you should refrain from using when speaking to your spouse as well as some tips on how to communicate more effectively, visit The Huffington Post. I realize never is a tall order but a little effort goes a long ways. Any taboo words I left out?
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