When I was growing up, there was a song called Make it Last Forever, by Keith Sweat. If I hear the song today, I can and will immediately begin singing along. It was one of the most popular R&B songs of the late 80s. Listening to that song with your girlfriend/boyfriend would make you want your relationship to last forever. Keep in mind, I was a young teen at the time and forever status at that time was probably a week or two.
I’m not sure what type of relationship secrets Keith Sweat was giving in the song, but it touched on what everyone wants. Both women and men. They want relationships that last. When getting married, you don’t have hopes to make it a week or a year. You want it to last forever. But how is that done?
How to make marriage last
An article on YourTango.com compiled the secrets of couples who have been married for many years. Many couples have passed the 50+ year mark. Below, I’ve listed several of the secrets. You can click the link at the bottom for the rest.
“Divorce is not an option not to be thought about, said aloud, considered as an answer to a problem. Almost all problems are short-term. Divorce is a long-term answer. And if money becomes an issue, get counseling immediately. It’s not the green stuff, it’s the values that generate issues and cause arguments.” Charlene has been married to Rick for 18 years (Georgetown, IN).
“Forget your old ‘best’ friends. You have a new best friend now. Make sure to have ‘your time.'”Rick has been married to Jenn for 14 years (Arlington, MA).
“We took a lot of trips without our children and both feel this has made all the difference in the world. We had friends who judged us for leaving our kids so often. They are now divorced.” Becky has been married to Jay for 26 years (Twin Cities, MN).
“We purposely sit next to each other on the couch each night. My father told me to be sure to do this when I got married. It makes it impossible not to physically touch each other!” Stephanie has been married for 18 years.
“Facing adversity together has kept us together. Concern for our children has also been a strong force. Once you have grandchildren, the family bond is greatly reinforced.” Chuck has been married to Marilyn for 41 years (Richmond, VA).
Click here to read the remaining 25 marriage secrets.
What is one of your best marriage secrets to make it last forever?
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