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25 Ways to Act Like You Love Your Spouse

Do you love your spouse? How does your spouse know you love them? Maybe you tell them every day. Maybe every time you go separate ways your last words are “I love you.” And you probably do love them and vice versa. What if the words you say, don’t necessarily spell love for your spouse?

An article I recently read on Your Tango discusses two behaviors which lead to a healthy and loving relationship. One of which is knowing your spouse’s love language.

The Five Love Languages is a book by Dr. Gary Chapman, which discusses five different ways people express and receive love. The words I love you should be expressed in some way. But when they are expressed they may not be received as love. You do it because you love your spouse, but your spouse may never interpret it that way.

No matter what your love language is, or what your spouse’s love language is, the important thing is to take action. Show your love in action. I’ve shared 25 love actions below, broken down into the five love languages.

Here are 25 ways to act like you love your spouse.

  • 25 Ways to Act Like You Love Your Spouse 1 of 26
    25 Ways to Act Like You Love Your Spouse

    Click through to see all 25 ways.

  • PHYSICAL TOUCH – Hold hands 2 of 26
    PHYSICAL TOUCH - Hold hands

    Remember the feeling the first time you held hands with someone you "liked."  For a person whose love language is physical touch, that feeling is the same today as it was then.

    photo credit: analogophile via photopin cc

  • PHYSICAL TOUCH – Give a massage 3 of 26
    PHYSICAL TOUCH - Give a massage

    When physical touch is your thing, the thought of your mate's hands all over your body is the best.  But it may just be the opposite if you aren't into physical touch.

    photo credit: RelaxingMusic via photopin cc

  • PHYSICAL TOUCH – Hug 4 of 26
    PHYSICAL TOUCH - Hug

    Some people are huggers, some are anti-huggers.  A warm embrace will tell your spouse how much you love them, and the longer you hug the more they are loved.

    PHYSICAL TOUCH - Give a massage

  • PHYSICAL TOUCH – High five 5 of 26
    PHYSICAL TOUCH - High five

    High fives are a universal way to express excitement, congrats, approval, and love in your marriage.  When your spouse does something good, go ahead and smack a high five with them.

    photo credit: akeg via photopin cc

  • PHYSICAL TOUCH – Kiss on the lips 6 of 26
    PHYSICAL TOUCH - Kiss on the lips

    I am not talking about the peck.  But a real kiss.  An intimate kiss that you don't do with anyone else.

    photo credit: Dustin J McClure via photopin cc

  • ACTS OF SERVICE – Wash the car 7 of 26
    ACTS OF SERVICE - Wash the car

    Are you familiar with the term domestic sexy?  If your spouse loves acts of service then you better be.  Skip taking the car to the car wash next time.  Grab a bucket, soap, a water hose and wash your spouse's car.

    photo credit: World Bank Photo Collection via photopin cc

  • ACTS OF SERVICE – Run to the store 8 of 26
    ACTS OF SERVICE - Run to the store

    We used to live two minutes from Walmart.  It seemed we were always there.  It was convenient and we always were forgetting stuff.  But the times my wife went and picked up something for me I felt much love.

    photo credit: Amsterdamize via photopin cc

  • ACTS OF SERVICE – Wash the dishes or laundry 9 of 26
    ACTS OF SERVICE - Wash the dishes or laundry

    Go ahead and be domestic sexy.  Clean the dishes, laundry, or anything else in the house that needs cleaning.

    photo credit: Gamma-Ray Productions via photopin cc

  • ACTS OF SERVICE – Fix something around the house 10 of 26
    ACTS OF SERVICE - Fix something around the house

    You don't have to be a carpenter to fix something around the house.  In fact, the less handy you are, the more it says "I love you" because you had to learn and work at it.  More effort = more love.

    photo credit: RLHyde via photopin cc

  • ACTS OF SERVICE – Do their chores 11 of 26
    ACTS OF SERVICE - Do their chores

    Taking a load off of your spouse says I love you in a big way.

    photo credit: Chiew Pang via photopin cc

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "You are amazing!" 12 of 26
    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - Say, "You are amazing!"

    Your words have tremendous power.  Your words, or lack of them will be interpreted by your spouse as love or not when this is their love language.

    photo credit: Lorena Cupcake via photopin cc

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "I am proud of you!" 13 of 26
    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - Say, "I am proud of you!"

    If your parents said this to you as a kid, you felt on cloud 99!  When your spouse loves words of affirmation, it will have the same impact on them today.

    photo credit: moriza via photopin cc

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "I love you." 14 of 26
    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - Say, "I love you."

    Tell them!  And tell them frequently.  Don't leave them guessing.

    photo credit: Extra Medium via photopin cc

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "You are my best friend." 15 of 26
    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - Say, "You are my best friend."

    Comforting words to someone who thrives off words of affirmation.

     

    photo credit: The U.S. Army via photopin cc

  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – "I’m happy I married you." 16 of 26
    WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - "I'm happy I married you."

    Letting your spouse know you chose right reaffirms the love you expressed on your wedding day.

    photo credit: Photochiel via photopin cc

  • RECEIVING GIFTS – Bring home flowers 17 of 26
    RECEIVING GIFTS - Bring home flowers

    Old school, but still effective when your spouse loves to receive gifts.

    photo credit: Pink Sherbet Photography via photopin cc

  • RECEIVING GIFTS – Give them a symbol of your marriage 18 of 26
    RECEIVING GIFTS - Give them a symbol of your marriage

    A gift doesn't have to be purchased.  Sometimes the gifts that say "I love you" the most are those with some thought behind it.

    photo credit: kaniths via photopin cc

  • RECEIVING GIFTS – Buy him/her something, anything, new 19 of 26
    RECEIVING GIFTS - Buy him/her something, anything, new

    When you like receiving gifts, new stuff is exciting, and it screams "I love you!"

    photo credit: Thomas Hawk via photopin cc

  • RECEIVING GIFTS – Have a surprise party 20 of 26
    RECEIVING GIFTS - Have a surprise party

    This is like gift receiving on steroids, and translating love on steroids.  Each person that shows up is a gift in itself.

    photo credit: Zac Wong via photopin cc

  • RECEIVING GIFTS – Weekend shopping trip 21 of 26
    RECEIVING GIFTS - Weekend shopping trip

    A weekend of love. :)

    photo credit: Sanctu via photopin cc

  • QUALITY TIME – Watch a movie together 22 of 26
    QUALITY TIME - Watch a movie together

    Just being close for a significant period of time says "I love you" to a spouse who loves quality time.

    photo credit: ginnerobot via photopin cc

  • QUALITY TIME – Take a walk alone 23 of 26
    QUALITY TIME - Take a walk alone

    Each step says I love you.  Each minute you spend doing it confirms you love your spouse.

    photo credit: gareth1953 Got My Bus Pass Now via photopin cc

  • QUALITY TIME – Have coffee or dessert out 24 of 26
    QUALITY TIME - Have coffee or dessert out

    Coffee and dessert places are built around conversation and can be intimate when with your spouse.  Another way to act like you love him/her.

    photo credit: SCA Svenska Cellulosa Aktiebolaget via photopin cc

  • QUALITY TIME – Put the kids down early and just talk 25 of 26
    QUALITY TIME - Put the kids down early and just talk

    When you have kids your quality time will be challenged.  Sometimes you have to get the kids out of the way.  Doing so will show how much you love your spouse.

    photo credit: maureen_sill via photopin cc

  • QUALITY TIME – Eat multiple meals together daily 26 of 26
    QUALITY TIME - Eat multiple meals together daily

    Breaking bread, sharing a meal, and sitting around the dinner table has almost become old fashioned for families.  But it is a great way to act like you love your spouse who enjoys quality time.

    photo credit: elston via photopin cc

Ladies: What is your spouse’s love language?  Are you speaking it?

Read more from Jackie on his blog, JackieBledsoe.com. Follow him on FacebookTwitterG+Instagram, and Pinterest.

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