Do you love your spouse? How does your spouse know you love them? Maybe you tell them every day. Maybe every time you go separate ways your last words are “I love you.” And you probably do love them and vice versa. What if the words you say, don’t necessarily spell love for your spouse?
An article I recently read on Your Tango discusses two behaviors which lead to a healthy and loving relationship. One of which is knowing your spouse’s love language.
The Five Love Languages is a book by Dr. Gary Chapman, which discusses five different ways people express and receive love. The words I love you should be expressed in some way. But when they are expressed they may not be received as love. You do it because you love your spouse, but your spouse may never interpret it that way.
No matter what your love language is, or what your spouse’s love language is, the important thing is to take action. Show your love in action. I’ve shared 25 love actions below, broken down into the five love languages.
Here are 25 ways to act like you love your spouse.
25 Ways to Act Like You Love Your Spouse
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PHYSICAL TOUCH – Hold hands
Remember the feeling the first time you held hands with someone you "liked." For a person whose love language is physical touch, that feeling is the same today as it was then.
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PHYSICAL TOUCH – Give a massage
When physical touch is your thing, the thought of your mate's hands all over your body is the best. But it may just be the opposite if you aren't into physical touch.
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PHYSICAL TOUCH – Hug
Some people are huggers, some are anti-huggers. A warm embrace will tell your spouse how much you love them, and the longer you hug the more they are loved.
PHYSICAL TOUCH - Give a massage
PHYSICAL TOUCH – High five
High fives are a universal way to express excitement, congrats, approval, and love in your marriage. When your spouse does something good, go ahead and smack a high five with them.
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PHYSICAL TOUCH – Kiss on the lips
I am not talking about the peck. But a real kiss. An intimate kiss that you don't do with anyone else.
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ACTS OF SERVICE – Wash the car
Are you familiar with the term domestic sexy? If your spouse loves acts of service then you better be. Skip taking the car to the car wash next time. Grab a bucket, soap, a water hose and wash your spouse's car.
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ACTS OF SERVICE – Run to the store
We used to live two minutes from Walmart. It seemed we were always there. It was convenient and we always were forgetting stuff. But the times my wife went and picked up something for me I felt much love.
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ACTS OF SERVICE – Wash the dishes or laundry
ACTS OF SERVICE – Fix something around the house
You don't have to be a carpenter to fix something around the house. In fact, the less handy you are, the more it says "I love you" because you had to learn and work at it. More effort = more love.
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ACTS OF SERVICE – Do their chores
Taking a load off of your spouse says I love you in a big way.
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WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "You are amazing!"
Your words have tremendous power. Your words, or lack of them will be interpreted by your spouse as love or not when this is their love language.
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WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "I am proud of you!"
If your parents said this to you as a kid, you felt on cloud 99! When your spouse loves words of affirmation, it will have the same impact on them today.
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WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "I love you."
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – Say, "You are my best friend."
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – "I’m happy I married you."
Letting your spouse know you chose right reaffirms the love you expressed on your wedding day.
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RECEIVING GIFTS – Bring home flowers
RECEIVING GIFTS – Give them a symbol of your marriage
A gift doesn't have to be purchased. Sometimes the gifts that say "I love you" the most are those with some thought behind it.
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RECEIVING GIFTS – Buy him/her something, anything, new
When you like receiving gifts, new stuff is exciting, and it screams "I love you!"
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RECEIVING GIFTS – Have a surprise party
This is like gift receiving on steroids, and translating love on steroids. Each person that shows up is a gift in itself.
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RECEIVING GIFTS – Weekend shopping trip
QUALITY TIME – Watch a movie together
Just being close for a significant period of time says "I love you" to a spouse who loves quality time.
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QUALITY TIME – Take a walk alone
QUALITY TIME – Have coffee or dessert out
QUALITY TIME – Put the kids down early and just talk
When you have kids your quality time will be challenged. Sometimes you have to get the kids out of the way. Doing so will show how much you love your spouse.
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QUALITY TIME – Eat multiple meals together daily
Breaking bread, sharing a meal, and sitting around the dinner table has almost become old fashioned for families. But it is a great way to act like you love your spouse who enjoys quality time.
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Ladies: What is your spouse’s love language? Are you speaking it?
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