You’re sitting at the latest bar, dressed to the nine, with your equally attractive friend sipping on some overpriced cocktail. The same thought continues to pass through your mind as you scan the room for a potential date, life partner, or even just, a one-night-stand: “Where are all the quality people?”
While we’ve all heard about that one exception where our friend’s, cousin’s co-worker met her husband at a bar, is that situation really the norm? Not when we’re labeling every guy who attempts to buy us a drink as non-datable material before he even says hello. Granted, his shirt was bedazzled and his hair was more greased than the bar’s chicken wings. But that’s beside the point.
Let’s be honest: we judge books by their covers. And at a bar or club, our skepticism is almost always at an all-time high. Although our outfit, hair extensions, and five-inchers beckon plenty of solicitors, we secretly judge the guys who are out to the wee hours of the night, spending $20 on a two-sip drink.
And this is exactly why nightlife spots aren’t the best place to find a date. Not because their aren’t any quality people roaming its dance floor (after all, you are there), but because our vibe isn’t genuine or inviting. It’s a waste of our time when we’re lugging around this kind of anti-mojo.
Let’s do ourselves a favor and be honest about what the bar scene is all about. If a potential date is what you’re looking for, here are a few opportunities where you’re less likely to judge others — and yourself, too.