I have been in a” couple” for 15 years now and that’s nearly half my life (yes, that makes me feel old) and it would be hard for me to see life in a different way. Thankfully., my partner and I get along quite well and I don’t anticipate that needing to change.
If you’re single and you have a lot of friends in coupled relationships, it can be hard to see life through their eyes. It’s kind of seen as the “ideal” and if that’s not your thing, you can develop some of your own ideas about what you think it would be like to be in a serious, committed relationship. I have had things assumed about what my life is like from friends who are not in long-term committed relationships and sometimes they’re right and other times they’re not. Just as I had preconceived notions and believed some of the misconceptions about life as a single person and the more I thought about them, the more I realized how little I really knew.
I know that not living the same type of life as someone else can give us some preconceived notions and misconceptions about what their life is like and the smart people at The Frisky pulled together some common misconceptions that singles have about couples and I’ve outlined a few of theirs and a few misconceptions I’ve noticed on my own:
Their lives are perfect because they’re in a relationship: Relationships take work and not all relationships are happy. I know that for me, I am probably happier in a relationship than not and I can recognize that my life would be different if I wasn’t. That doesn’t necessarily mean my life is “perfect” — everyone has things they wish they could change.
They don’t have time for single friends: One of the things I hated when I got married was my single friends stopped inviting me out assuming that I wouldn’t be able to go out. Being coupled doesn’t usually change the amount of time you have to hang out (nothing close to what having kids does) and assuming we can’t go out because w’er coupled is a little insulting.
Their partner really understands them: Again, not all pairings are perfect and if you’re in a relationship where your partner can read your mind, well, that’s rare! I don’t actually know if that does exist and well, that sounds like it could be a little boring, doesn’t it? I think what makes my relationship work in terms of understanding is we’ve kind of figured out the best way to communicate with each other.
They think everyone would be happier in a relationship: No, that’s not something we all believe in. I can recognize that being coupled is not for everyone and I am in one. It may just be that you’ve not found the right person, maybe you have a different idea of what relationships would look like or just are happier on your own. That’s okay!
We do the same thing over and over and are boring: Well, you know — I bet some people would think my husband and I are boring, but that’s just they way we are. We’re both homebody work-a-holics who tend to spend our time watching Netflix shows while we work and that’s what works for us. Not all couples are boring by default and their lives could be just as exciting as others who are single.
::What are some of the misconceptions you’ve come across? Share in the comments! ::
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Devan is a freelance writer living in Toronto, Ontario with her husband, three kids and expecting baby #4 at the end of this year. Read more from Devan on Babble and “like” Accustomed Chaos on Facebook!