Last night I spoke with several other women about divorce as a young mother. With the exception of blog posts I have written here, it was the most I had talked about divorce aloud in what seems like ages. Seeing my name flash across the screen identified as a “divorced at 22” was surreal. This was my life. This is my life. Later I reflected on some of the things that I said and also things that I wish I said. I thought of the things I would have wanted someone to say to me when I was going through a divorce and I thought about what things made the most difference.
Later I stumbled upon an article on The Huffington Post. It touched upon 5 of the worst mistakes people make during a divorce. As I scanned them I thought of some of the things that I did right. Because when you are going through a divorce it’s easy to think about all of the things you did wrong. People are quick to point them out for you and oftentimes we can be pretty hard on ourselves. Then there are some things I wish I did differently, primarily the freaking out part (#4). My biggest fear was that my child would pay for my poor choices but I quickly learned that I didn’t have time to sit and worry. I had a life to live and create for me and my child. Today I am sharing 7 of the best things you can do for yourself during a divorce. There are lots of great things you can do but these are the things that helped me.
I believe as I do some additional reflection there will be other things that come to mind but as of now these are the things that were on my heart. It is so easy to buy into the lies, it is easy to be laden with worry but don’t be so consumed with worry that you aren’t able to see the beauty that still abounds in your life. It’s there not only in the faces of your children but inside of you – inside of that heart that refuses to give up and be defeated. A heart that may have been deeply hurt yet continues to beat for the sake of its’ babies, for the sake of itself. Divorce may be a part of your story but it isn’t your whole story. For 5 of the worst mistakes people make during a divorce visit The Huffington Post.
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