Lessons from Donald Sterling: 7 Reasons to Never Be UnfaithfulJackie Bledsoe
One of the biggest stories in the media has been about a businessman and his private conversation with his girlfriend. Donald Sterling, real estate developer and owner of the NBA’s Los Angeles Clippers, was caught in an audio recording sharing his views on race and society.
The audio created an uproar over the past few days, and culminated today with Mr. Sterling being banned from the NBA and ordered to pay a $2.5 million fine. Wow!
While his views on race and society were very offensive and harmful, what amazed me was what wasn’t talked about. What wasn’t talked about was the fact that Mr. Sterling is a married, yet unfaithful, man, living a very public life with his girlfriend who was responsible for the audio being recorded.
So to sum it all up: The woman he was having a relationship with while married actually led to this happening. To me, this is just another reason why it’s so important to be faithful, showing just how destructive being unfaithful in marriage can be.
Here are 7 reasons why you should never be unfaithful:
1) What you’ve worked for is destroyed
In Donald Sterling’s case, he had been the owner of the Los Angeles Clippers for 30+ years. That has all ended. Years and years of work are now gone because of a relationship he had outside of his marriage.
2) Your reputation is mud
Donald Sterling has had a checkered past when it comes to racist views. None of those impacted him like this debacle did, which again, at the center of it all, was a relationship with a woman who was not his wife.
3) Your livelihood is uprooted
As a successful businessman, he may be able to regroup, focus on other venture, and replace the income eventually. But for 30+ years, he’s had access to the buildings where his team plays, practices, and operates from. There will be no more front row seats at NBA games — or any seats for that matter.
4) Your family is negatively impacted
I don’t know if Sterling’s children were involved in the business, if they had ownership stakes or not. But they undoubtedly will be impacted by the now public knowledge of their father’s views.
The intent may have been to prepare them to take over the family business one day, but now that’s in jeopardy. His wife has also been forced into the spotlight to discuss her husband’s views and relationship with another woman.
5) Your secrets get exposed
It was a known “secret” that Sterling had some racist views, but nothing had ever been proven, at least not on this level. As a result of his relationship with his mistress, some of his deepest views and secrets were made known to the world.
Many times those who are unfaithful believe they can get away with being unfaithful. I believe truth will rise to the top at some point. The Sterling scenario is a great example of this.
6) The lives of those who depend on you are damaged
The Los Angeles Clippers had their most successful season ever this year; they had a legitimate chance of winning a championship. However after their boss was exposed, they were blown out of their next playoff game.
Not only that, there were considerations of boycotting, which would have impacted Clipper employees, stadium workers, and a number of other people associated with the NBA and Clippers organization. The fallout from being unfaithful isn’t limited to those in the relationship.
7) You gave your word to your spouse
All those reasons are good reasons to never be unfaithful, but at the end of the day, they shouldn’t even come into consideration. The most important reason to never be unfaithful is because you gave your word to your spouse.
You committed to be with him/her through good and bad times, until death do you part. If we all honor our word above other things, our lives and relationships will be much better.
What has kept you faithful in your marriage?
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