The definition of potential is “having or showing the capacity to become or develop into something in the future.” And that’s the kind of men I used to date.
Not on purpose, of course. I always state (and aloud) that I want a man who is ready for all of this, a man who is ready to commit and love me like an hombre. Pretty much I desire someone who has his life together. Professional success, financial stability, an open heart, maturity, self-awareness, and strength: I want it all!
And then I’d end up with college drop outs, struggling artists (I want to be a rapper, yo!), freelance writers (living that the check-to-check life), and men who resided in their mommas back room.
But why? Why did I date men who had potential instead of attracting those who were already developed?
Oh, there was a rationalization behind my self-sabotaging choices. Here are seven reasons why I dated men with potential.