I will never forget my first heartbreak. In fact I will never forget any of them. Why? Because each time it somehow felt like my world was ending. As a teenager I would sob, experience a loss of appetite and curl into a ball, and even as a young adult when my now husband and I broke up I did the same thing. The only difference was that I hid it better because it wasn’t just me anymore. Being a mom and an adult with responsibilities I didn’t get to play hooky from work, refrain from showering and sit on the couch watching Lifetime movies or crying to the tune of old love songs. I had to keep going.
Being a mother helped me further understand that life doesn’t stop for you to grieve. Whether it’s the lost of a relationship or something far worse you have to keep going. My child needed her mother which meant late night conversations with friends or pep talks on the way to work and during my lunch breaks had to suffice. But in the process of everything I also learned something else. Looking back at each and every heartbreak I could see an underlying theme: I got through it.
I cried, I got angry, I deleted old text messages and did whatever I needed to do in order to heal and move forward. And each and every time I got through it. I learned that my heart was strong enough — enough to push through the pain associated with a break up and heal even when in the moment it felt like it never would. I learned that the pain of a heartbreak, though seemingly excruciating, doesn’t last forever even when it feels like it will.
An article by Your Tango identified some tips on what to do if the guy you are seeing disappears on you but the tips can help even if your ex didn’t go MIA. Here are 8 tips that can to be helpful in getting through a breakup:
For more insight on how to handle a breakup as well as what you should do if your guy disappears visit Your Tango. What advice do you have to help someone get through a breakup?
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