When I hear romantic tales from the olden days, a little piece of my heart flutters. The first love story that I ever heard was that of my mother and father. Papi rode the streets of Tenares (my mother’s town in the Dominican Republic) on his motorcycle. He turned onto my mother’s street. She sat on the porch, rocking on a rocking chair. And he spotted her. He thought she was beautiful. And he knew he’d be hers.
His words, not mine.
Years later and there’s a wedding, three babies, and a divorce. But their love story is still very romantic. My father pursued my mother. There was no doubt that he wanted her.
That’s how I want a man that I desire to court me. And then some. I am not alone. Chivalry may be dead but women want to resurrect courtship. Women want men to take a page from my daddy and woo us like hombres.
Here are eight ways women want to be courted.
Courting a Lady 1 of 9
Courtship should not be dead, but it kind of is. Here are 8 ways women want to be courted ...
Attention to Detail 2 of 9
Oh the details! Women love rose petals sprinkled on beds. We also adore love notes and sweet morning text messages. That's what my friends said. From little surprises to the opening of car doors, it's the little things that women desire when they are being courted.
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Planning Dates 3 of 9
Spontaneous men can be very sexy but so can a man who is a planner. When a man plans a date for a woman, it means he is thinking of her ahead of time. Planning a date takes effort. A man has to research. Pick a place. Set reservations. These are all little things that are so sexy and that women love.
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Confirming Dates 4 of 9
I am a stickler for consistency. I love a man who is reliable and who is organized. That's why I love it when a man confirms a date. Call me in advance. Set the date. Confirm. Because a man who confirms a date is a responsible man.
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Constant Calls 5 of 9
In the early stages of dating, I love it when a man calls to check in and get to know me. In this era of texting, it' s not very common. And you really can't get to know someone over text messages. So, I love to be courted through the phone. Pick up, dial my number (actually, in this day and age press a button), and kiss me through the phone!
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Gifts Galore 6 of 9
Diamonds are a girl's best friend and that may never change. Women want to receive gifts when being courted. Nothing too lavish. Well, the price tag really does depend on the gal. Still, women want men to treat us to dinner, the movies, and drinks. Woo me with your wallet even if you just buy me a Ring Pop from the bodega.
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Be Expressive and Affectionate 7 of 9
When a man tells a woman she's fabulous, she feels extra fabulous. What woman doesn't want to hear sweet nothings? This way of courting is so easy. It's free. And it's from the heart. Same with hugs and kisses (if the woman allows, of course). I love a man who holds my hand, hugs me, and holds me by the small of my back.
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Tell Me What You Want 8 of 9
Sweet nothings can only go so far, which is why I love it when a man courts me with honesty. Tell me you want me. Tell me you want to kiss me. Then kiss me. And be honest about your feelings and where the relationship is really going. If you want to commit, tell me and you will win me over. I may even say yes.
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Courtship That Never Ends 9 of 9
This is a sweet thought and so very romantic. Of course a woman said she wants courtship to last forever! Or at least for the duration of the relationship. Like Olivia said on my Facebook wall, "When the courting stops, I tend to check out." So don't stop courting us ever, gentlemen.
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