Recently, I read an article by Your Tango that identified several Mr. Wrongs – the guys that you definitely don’t want to date and what you can learn from dating them. I’ve dated a few Mr. Wrongs in my day. Heck, I even married one. And while there are moments when a “do over” of my teens and twenties seems quite appealing, each of the events and people that filled that time period played a role in the person I am today. And I have to say I am pretty proud of the woman I have become. I’m stronger, more confident in my abilities and especially grateful for the gifts that I have. And, dare I say it, Mr. Wrong did something quite wonderful for me, he helped prepare me for Mr. Right. And if you aren’t familiar with my story, Mr. Right and I are married and most certainly in it for the long haul. But being in relationships with people who weren’t right for me did teach me a thing or two, or nine (don’t want to make Mr. Wrong look too good!). Take a look at 9 things I learned from dating Mr. Wrong:
From time to time I might have a flashback and cringe, but when I look at the big picture I find myself eternally grateful. The most beautiful things came from what I consider to be my worst relationships – things like some guts (I finally learned to stand up for myself), a beautiful child who has changed my life in miraculous ways, and a deep appreciation for a man who loves and values me in a way that at one point in my life I thought wasn’t even possible. So yes, as crazy as it sounds, I am grateful that I dated a few guys that weren’t for me because I see the true value in what I’ve got. And I realize that not everyone has to be in a bad relationship to appreciate a good one, but I do believe that the saying, “you have to have rain to appreciate the sunshine,” holds true even when it comes to dating.
Did you date a Mr. Wrong and learn anything from your experience?
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