In just over a month I will have been married to my husband for 9 years. At the end of June though, we will be celebrating our 14th year together, which in this day seems like a year to celebrate.
We met when I was 17-years old and he was 18. We were still in high school and though he was in a grade older than I, we quickly became inseparable. And we have been together ever since, not even one small break or break-up in between. We moved in together after high school and went to college at the same school. We got engaged on our last year and married in a sweet ceremony the summer we graduated. I was 22-years old when I got married and now at 31, three kids and pregnant with number 4, I can say that we’re still going strong, happy in love. It’s not all roses, and it hasn’t all been smooth sailing, but we’ve proven that we can grow and still say together, which is why I am positive for our future.
One thing I am a firm believe when it comes to long-term relationships or marriage where a couple is living together, is to make sure you don’t treat each other like roommates. Sure, you’re living together, making a live together, but in my opinion, there needs to still be a hint of mystery when it comes to you as an individual. I work hard at that and for the past 14 years, I can safely say that there are some things I will never (and have never and plan to never) do in front of my husband even though we live together. Some things are just not for your lover to see, human or not.
I have a feeling not everyone will agree with every point, but for me, this is what works in my marriage. It’s certainly not my husband saying these can’t be done — I don’t even know if he would care — but for me, these 9 things I would never do in front of my husband:
There are plenty of things I do allow my husband to see and nothing on this list is with his insistence. I regularly have no make up on, don’t wash my hair for days and wouldn’t care if he saw or not, have walked around with breast milk stained shirts and don’t have any problem being me. For my own reasons though, these are just off-limits.
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