Last year I shared 12 marriage lessons I learned in 2012. They are lessons that have been at the forefront of my mind as my husband and I have traveled through 2013. This year has certainly kept me on my toes and also on my knees in prayer. It has been trying but the most trying things have been bearable because of my faith and because I have been blessed with an amazing man to go through life with.
As I head into 2014 I can’t help but think about some of the areas I want to continue to work on in my marriage and just as a person. I’m leaving 2013 with a deeper respect for my husband and even more love. I’m grateful for the support he has shown me as I’ve lived my dream for the past year and a half and I am confident that as we venture down this new chapter in our lives we will be just fine as long as we keep God first and lean on each other.
Recently I asked some friends and colleagues to share a resolution for their relationship. Take a look at what they had to say:
Relationship Resolutions for the New Year 1 of 8
5 Babble bloggers and readers share one of their relationship resolutions for the New Year.
Work on being one 2 of 8
"We want to work on us being one unit. With the kids, work and basketball we get thrown off course. We want to focus on us as a couple and get back to where we used to be before we had the boys. We need the date nights and love notes back in action." ~ Maria and Jamaal Forrester
Make each other a priority 3 of 8
We don't do "resolutions" like most people, or at least we don't call them "resolutions." We choose one guiding theme to lean on and come back to throughout the year. The theme for 2014 is "making us a priority." There were a lot of things going on with our family last year, and our relationship kind of took a backseat. We realize, along with our relationship with Christ, our marriage forms the foundation to everything else in our lives, so we must be intentional about "making us a priority. ~ Jackie (Babble Blogger) & Stephana Bledsoe
Laugh and have more fun 4 of 8
"I am making the resolution to laugh more with my husband, and to try to find the fun in our crazy life with young children." ~ Chaunie Brusie`, Babble Blogger
Find or be found 5 of 8
My friend Amber shared/implied on Facebook that she wanted to find love or have love find her.
To hold on to my joy 6 of 8
"This year I want to get better at not letting circumstances or obstacles steal my joy. There have been times when I've let bad news rain on my parade and keep me from enjoying my family like I should. Date night will not fall victim to what felt like a bad day." ~ Krishann Briscoe, Babble Blogger
To relinquish "control" 7 of 8
I struggle with not having control. I always want to know what is happening so I can prepare and plan (or prematurely stress out). When my husband and I do get to go on a date we usually do dinner and a movie. Something that doesn't involve a lot of thought. We go to the same restaurants and for the most part when we do something different I take control and plan. But the reality is I love when my husband makes special plans for us. It makes me feel extra special and I secretly love the idea of just showing up (or getting in the car). The anticipation, the excitement...
It is a lesson I learned earlier this year when I realized that my behavior and desire to be in control could be discouraging my husband from actually making plans. So in 2014 my plan is to let go and let my Mr. do some planning for a change. Date nights planned by him.
To become better friends 8 of 8I asked my husband what he wanted for our relationship and he simply said, "To become even better friends."
Whether you’re into resolutions or not each day presents us with an opportunity to do better and be better so why not?
Happy New Year!