I am a believer that beauty can emerge from ugly places. I say that because I know. It isn’t just the story of countless men and women who I admire, but it is also a facet of my own story. The most miraculous things have been able to come out of the challenges, heartbreak and loss that have occurred in my own life. It is why I am a proponent in sharing your story. There was a time when I worried what people would say or think. But then my focus shifted. I realized that my challenges have, in a sense, equipped me with increased compassion, a more caring heart and humility. And as a result I desire to help others who have experienced or are experiencing something similar. Whether it is encouraging them or simply reminding them that they are not the only one is how I choose to use my voice. And in doing so, suddenly it felt like all of this had a purpose. I learned and grew in the process, but I was helping others too. And if one person could find strength in my story, then perhaps it was worth it.
My divorce is one of those things. A difficult situation, a time in my life filled with such uncertainty and worries, that played a role in the reshaping of me as a woman. By the time my divorce finalized, I had moved beyond a place of being bitter. Instead, I allowed the situation to help make me better. Beautiful things came out of what on the outside might have been perceived as an end. A new sense of hope, self-worth, and determination already in the works long before the last of the paperwork had been signed was evident. My life was different now — not worse, but better.
In retrospect, I believe my divorce made me an even better wife to my husband than I would have been. Now, I’m not saying that you have to have an ex-spouse to be a great spouse. What I am saying is that you have the ability to make the most of a difficult situation. You can decide to allow your divorce to make you bitter, or you can allow it to make you better. Here’s how mine did the latter:
Have any of you remarried? Can you think of ways it has made you better as opposed to bitter?
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