Crazy Weird Things That Sabotage Your RelationshipAlisa Bowman
There are many things that are crazy weird that aren’t necessarily going to sabotage your relationship. For instance, there’s a couple in Texas who have a capybara for a pet. Folks, that’s a rodent the size of Marmaduke.
In this post, I’m not talking about that kind of crazy weird. No, I’m talking about the kind of crazy weird that you wouldn’t expect to affect your relationship at all.
Are any of the following true for you?
Crazy Weird Stuff That Hurts Your Relationship 1 of 11
Consider yourself warned.
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The Diaper Divide 2 of 11
A whopping 45 percent of wives experience a sharp drop in marital satisfaction after the birth of a baby. No surprise there. It's hard to communicate effectively when you spend all of your time standing in front of a changing table and also when you are getting as much sleep as your average bullfrog. Here's what's surprising. Did you know that moms who attend religious services regularly tend to fall into the 55 percent of those who stay happy post baby? Well, it's true, and it speaks to the importance of social support and connections. If you are pregnant and don't attend religious services, think about forming a tight, social network now. Look into nursing groups like La Leche, for instance.
Couples Who Are Bored Together Don’t Stay Together 3 of 11
Feeling bored now? In nine years, you'll be plotting divorce, finds research. Fortunately, marital boredom is easy to cure. Just try a new activity together. Novelty of any kind breeds excitement, conversations, and closeness. As I learned recently, even a juice cleanse can spice things up. So shake things up. Sleep on the other side of the bed. Join a wine tasting club. Don't wait for excitement to find you. Seek it out.
Don’t Marry Your Car 4 of 11
People who commute for 45 minutes or longer have a 40 percent greater risk of divorce than people who drive shorter distances to work. One factor: the stress of road rage. So follow that commute home with a relaxing activity you can do together, such as couples massage.
With Friends Like That, Who Needs Spouses? 5 of 11
If your friend's marriage splits up, your risk of divorce jumps 75 percent. If couples all around you are calling it quits, take it as a nudge to work on your relationship before it's too late. Also, seek out couples with strong marriages and hang out with them for inspiration and support.
The Issue With Being Liked 6 of 11
A doctoral student at the University of Missouri School of Journalism found that heavy Facebook users were more likely to fight with their romantic partners and eventually split up than lighter Facebook users. Create some boundaries: no social media during dinner or in the bedroom. And make an effort to connect with each other rather than your social web.
Who doesn’t, right? 7 of 11
Apparently, a lot of people have no jitters at all, say researchers. And couples who had premarital doubts spent less time together 18 months later than couples who felt confident about their unions. They were also less happy at the three year mark.
Om is Another Word for Love 8 of 11
Seventeen married women who were given meditation lessons reported greater marital satisfaction than seventeen married women who didn't meditate. Just saying.
Here’s a Reason to Thank Your Bro 9 of 11
People from big families are more likely to stay married than people from small ones. What do you do if you are an only? Brush up on your communication skills and make an extra effort to embrace compromise.
The Great Geographic Divide 10 of 11
According to the Census Bureau, people who live in the South and the West have higher rates of divorce than people who live in the Northeast. The state with the highest divorce rate: Nevada. So keep that in mind if you are contemplating a drive-through Vegas wedding.
Get Over it Already 11 of 11
People who are highly skeptical tend to harbor grudges and remember their partners in a negative light. People who are highly trusting, on the other hand, do the opposite. They forgive, forget, and mentally rewrite history for the better, finds research. To shift your perspective toward the positive, try keeping an appreciation journal. Once a day, jot down one quality you admire about your spouse.
Read more of Alisa’s writing at ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com.