Marriage is not for everyone. Period. And some people who think marriage is for them may be mistaken. If you cannot agree to this one thing before getting married, then save yourself and your fiancé time, money, and frustration.
If you cannot agree that you will never allow divorce to enter your marriage in any form or fashion, then marriage is not for you. If you think pre-nuptials are a good idea, then don’t get married. If you have any kind of “escape clause” or plans, then don’t get married. About half of marriages end in divorce, and this is one of the main reasons, because divorce was an option.
The glue to marriage…
When I say don’t allow divorce in your marriage in any form, I mean don’t discuss it, don’t joke about it, don’t use it as leverage to get what you want, and definitely don’t plan for it. This concept has been the glue in our marriage for 12+ years. Before we learned this principle, we were in fact headed for divorce. But then we adopted this mantra after taking a marriage class and it made all the difference.
It takes two…
Had we not both embraced this principle, we’d have easily gone the other way when times got tough. And boy, did they ever get tough! Yet, we are still married, not perfectly married, or happily married all the time, but we have a marriage without regrets and that has been fulfilling.
Here are 7 reasons to not get married if you can’t agree on this one thing.
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