How to Find Love in the Right Places

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I’m not much of a cardio person…or a weights person for that matter. That Crossfit stuff scares me. I’m a flowy Pilates and yoga type of lady.

But lately I’ve been feeling I need to sweat rather than just stretch. Get those toxins out. Get my heat rate going. Ya know? So I signed up for these crazy spinning classes after much convincing from my bestie. Ugh, hate her.

As I was in class this morning, the music was pumping, the wheels were spinning, and the teacher was motivating. It was the perfect environment for making my fitness goals happen. But you know what? I still felt tired.

It wasn’t until I started whispering to myself “Let’s do this, Nikki” and “Keep going, Nikki” that I actually gained my strength. I was the only force that could push myself forward not the instructor or the music or cycle mates. Just me.

The same rings true in life. How many times do we look for someone else to lift us up and tell us how great we are? How many times do we hope that the guy at the bar walks over to tell us how beautiful we are?  Or how about when we wait for our parents to tell us we’re doing a good job? And when it doesn’t happen as we expected, we end up feeling worse than we did in the first place. No fun, right?

How about trying this: Be your own cheerleader. While it’s great to be around supportive people, their opinions about you are never going to generate the speed that your own inner thoughts do. What you believe will drive you. It’s as simple as that.

So, be kind to yourself. Be your biggest fan. Even if you don’t believe at first, keep repeating those supportive thoughts and eventually they will become beliefs. The kind of beliefs that help you get to where you want to be.

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