When a spouse or family member has an illness, life changes in a major way. Not just for the person who is sick, but those closest to him/her. For a married couple, the biggest challenges seem to fall on the spouse. Overwhelmed is not even close to describing what both spouses go through.
I’ve witnessed this in the marriages of family members, and currently some close friends are facing it. Not only is the husband hurt, concerned, and saddened about his wife’s health, but he also has kids, work, and plenty more things on his plate. And it all has to be addressed with the closest person to him.
I’ll be honest, I don’t know how he does it, or how anyone else in a similar situation is able to handle it. I’m sure it has stretched him, forced him out of his comfort zone, and tested his strength and faith. A recent article I read at MarkMerrill.com gives some great insight from someone who has lived it, and has great suggestions on how to handle illness in marriage.
In the article, Mark lists 4 ways to manage your home when dealing with illness. It is done by taking on 4 different roles.
- Medical Manager
- House Manager
- Time Manager
- Emotional manager
Each role is challenging in itself, but when more than one of these roles falls on a spouse, it can really challenge him/her. But as Mark proves in his article, it can be done. Click this link to read detailed descriptions of each role, the necessary sacrifices, and how it can help your marriage and your family through dealing with illness.
How have you handled illness in your marriage or family?
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