Our 10-year anniversary was coming up and my husband and I were in a funk. We have kids, work, daily responsibilities but it didn’t seem like we were a couple anymore. We were an “Us.” Us as in him, our kids, and me. We do everything together all together. We’d been reminiscing about our honeymoon, the one and only time I had been to Europe and one of the last times the two of us had gone on an adventure.
So we decided it was finally time to reinvest in the “Two of Us” and used the last of our airline miles, booked hotels, and we were off. (Oh, and spent weeks arranging childcare with grandparents and friends.)
It changed everything. I won’t be so corny as to say we fell in love again. We already loved each other. But we reconnected in a way that just a date night wouldn’t do.
Here are a few tips to make use of that vacation time and reconnect plus a slideshow of our adventure.
1) Don’t talk too much. Or at least don’t talk about anything heavy. Bringing up the little things that annoy you won’t make for a fun vacation. Save it for the trip home. If you have a good time, chances are you won’t care. .
2) Pretend you’re dating. Ask questions, listen, and hold hands. I’ll bet you think you’ve heard each other’s stories a million times, but there are more secrets to be heard if you take the time.
3) When you do talk, try not to talk about the kids. Reconnecting means concentrating on each other not what your kids might or might not be doing.
4) Get it on. This is the probably the most important part of reconnecting. If you have a hotel room for several nights, use it as much as possible. It’s amazing what it will do for your mood, your interest in your partner, and your complexion.
5) Be up for any adventure. Our flight was cancelled, our luggage was lost for the first two days in Paris, and we missed our train from Paris to London. All of these could have ruined our vacation, but we didn’t let it. We had a great time, adversity and all.
The Eiffel Tower 1 of 8How can you not fall in love on a beautiful day in front of the Eiffel Tower?
Paris Neighborhoods 2 of 8Taking long walks can be a great way to reconnect.
Gluten-Free in Paris and London 3 of 8One way to show someone you love them is by finding ways to accomodate their special needs. After a little searching we found gluten-free galettes in Paris and went to a gluten-free tea in London.
Windsor Castle 4 of 8There are some days that are just magical, like this one when we took a train to Windsor Castle.
Westminster Abbey 5 of 8Our last day in London was a beautiful one. We spent it touring Westminster Abbey.
London Walking Tour 6 of 8We learned so much and had lots to talk about after a walking tour around London.
Paris and London Museums 7 of 8Some of the best times can be quiet times. Walking through the Rodin Museum, the Musee d'Orsay, the Louvre in Paris, and the Tate Modern in London were some of our favorite memories.
Paris and London Transportation 8 of 8Our first flight was cancelled, the airline lost our luggage, and we missed our train in London. But it was all part of the adventure.
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