Is marriage more about your head than your heart? Did you know that your thoughts could be the biggest deterrent to a healthy marriage? Our expectations and mindset are linked to the success and failure of many different areas in our lives, including our marriages and relationships.
An article I read on YourTango makes the point that “if you can harness the power of expectation, you can dramatically change your relationship and your life.” Think of it like this …
You weren’t ready for that
Have you ever been given a beverage that you assumed was water, but when you had a sip, you discovered it was lemonade, or tea, or worse? It could have been the best tasting lemonade or tea in the world, but your expectations ruined it for you.
When we prepare for one thing, our mind is set on it and we react accordingly. The same thing goes for our relationships. When we expect our spouse to be angry at us for backing the car into the garage door, we prepare our defenses. We may not even listen to the words, “Are you okay? We’ll get it taken care of!” because our expectations have caused us to put up our defenses and to be ready to fight.
You can control your expectations
If you have done this, you don’t have to anymore. There are a few things you can do to set your expectations to where they help your marriage, not hurt it.
Here are 7 ways to gain control of your expectations and change your marriage for the better:
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