I once thought that in order to find love I had to be “successful.” I use air quotes because success is relative. To some, one is successful if one is making six figures, having a killer 401K and property to boot. To others, success occurs when one is happy, serene, and in love with their career. It’s the Type A versus the yogis’ versions of success.
I would rather not think in extremes. I want to be financially free. I want to have an amazing house, or two. I also want to be happy, emotionally intelligent and at peace. And I must love my career. I want it all, really.
For me, being passionate about my job has always been a priority. As hard as the relationship writer/love guru job can become, and as much as I fear being a retiree with no nest egg, I could never do something that I don’t love. Think about it. We work a minimum of seven hours a day. That’s 35 hours a week. If we’re lucky, we sleep about 7-8 hours a day. That’s 35-40 hours a week. What does that leave us with? Not many hours in the day, weeks, months. That’s why it’s important to love what I do. I would hate to be unhappy all the time.
A love of career also helps our love life. According to a study, hating your job is bad for your mental health, which affects your personal life — ipso facto your romantic relationships. Not loving what you do causes depression, anxiety and even elevated blood pressure. That is a recipe for disaster in life and romantic relationships.
In the same vein, misery is contagious, as is happiness. Have you ever been around someone who hates her job? They are grumpy before work, during work, and after work. They whine about how they hate their job and cant’t wait to leave. It’s a cycle of negativity. That energy affects romantic relationships. It strains relationships. It also affects your desirability if you’re single. No man wants to be around a woman who is miserable.
So it seems that being in love with our career is the best bet to finding healthy love, and keeping it that way. I love what I do. I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. I guess that means I am ready for love. I am on my way.
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