Over at my personal blog ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com, people write to me about their marriage problems and then, with the help of other readers, I try to solve them. As a result, I’ve heard about hundreds of issues over the years. While some of the problems are rare, many are not. Some are so sadly common that I’ve written about them several times. Here, you’ll find seven common marriage problems, explained with the help of Venn diagrams.
Marriage Problems Told Through Venn Diagrams 1 of 8
Tech Widowhood 2 of 8
Create tech-free zones: at the dinner table, in the bedroom, and during important conversations. To get your spouse's attention, yelling often doesn't work. Try standing right in front with a hand gently placed on your spouse's shoulder, arm, or even right over the device. Make eye contact and wait.
Sleeping with the Enemy 3 of 8
If your spouse snores loudly, a health check-up is in order. Snoring is a sign of sleep apnea, which raises risk for heart disease. It could be that a CPAP machine saves your spouse's life and your marriage.
The Silent Treatment 4 of 8
Unless you married someone with ESP, saying what you want out loud is so much more effective.
Invasion of the Meddling In-Laws 5 of 8
Try to see things from your in-law's perspective. Chances are, she really and truly means well. Then make a pact with your spouse: neither one of you makes a decision without checking with each other. No matter what mom or dad-in-law asks, the answer is, "I'll get back with you. I'll have to check with my better half."
The Celibate Marriage 6 of 8
Researchers offer hope for couples stuck in celibate marriages due to low libido—and no little blue pills are required. Both hypnotic relaxation therapy and mindfulness meditation show promise in helping women get in the mood.
The Honeymoon Is Over 7 of 8
Patient Acceptance now becomes your secret to marital bliss. Keep an appreciation journal and, each night before bed, write down three things you love about your spouse.
Falling Out of Things in Common 8 of 8
Usually, the complaint "we have nothing in common" is false. You have things in common; you just don't appreciate them. Rather than fixate on your differences, try to zero in on your strengths. What did you used to love about your spouse that you still love today? Also try to compromise. Perhaps you can start a new activity together—one you both find enjoyable.
Read more of Alisa’s writing at ProjectHappilyEverAfter.com.