Sweetney & Spice With a Side of AdviceTracey Gaughran
So, let’s be frank: I’ve been struggling a bit with my writing on Sweetney & Spice lately. Since deciding to stop picking through the remains of my marriage and my experience of divorce, and instead shifting gears and devoting myself to health and wellness-oriented topics here, I’ve felt as though something was missing. But I couldn’t put my finger on what, exactly.
After talking through my concerns with the lovely folks at Babble, I think I now know what it was that I felt was missing: the emotional connections and sharing that, for me, have always been what’s made the internet an exciting and fun place to be. In my effort to turn over a new, more positively-focused leaf, I somehow lost that sense that I was connecting in a personal way with all of you, which led to me feeling adrift and unmoored here.
But no more!
In writing this column, I need to make a change to get back that (cough) lovin’ feelin’ — to again connect and share with each of you on a personal level, and to offer something that will, I hope, be useful and fun. Which is why today I’m launching a relationship column here: Sweet Talk with Tracey. *jazz hands*
Now let’s be absolutely clear: I’m no relationship expert. But I am someone who has, in my 42 years, been through just about every good and bad relationship situation you can possibly imagine. In the past, I’ve been a free-wheeling singleton and in committed monogamous relationships, I’ve had long-term boyfriends and short-term flings, cohabited out-of-wedlock and been married (and separated, and divorced), with children. And in each situation I’ve gone through all of the ups and downs, the positive and negative, the joy and pain, that those different relationships offered. I’ve been blissfully happy in relationships and I’ve been ground through the emotional wringer. I’ve had my heart broken and I’ve done some heartbreaking of my own. I’ve loved, and lost, and loved again.
So my hope is that all of my relationship experiences, good and bad, and what I’ve gleaned from going through them, can be of use here. In responding to what you share, I’ll never judge and I’ll never pretend that I have all the answers. But I will honestly share my thoughts, opinions, and experiences as they relate to you and your relationship issues and troubles, in the hopes that at the very least, you’ll come away from this column feeling less alone.
So let’s get started!
You can share your relationship-related stories and issues — wholly anonymously — here: Sweet Talk Submission Form. If you don’t desire anonymity you have the option of also filling in your name, and if you provide a link to your site/blog/twitter (or whatever), I’ll link to you here, in my response.
I think this will be A LOT of fun, and I encourage everyone reading to also respond to submitted topics in comments — the more advice, suggestions and ideas we can all share with each other, the better. I’ll begin responding to your submissions here next week!
So now, shoo! Go and submit something!
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