I have an amazing wife and three amazing kids. I am thankful and blessed they are in my life. Sometimes I don’t feel I deserve them. I love them with all my heart, but I don’t always show it. I try my best to lead them, but sometimes I lead them in the wrong direction.
It’s frustrating and very humbling when you have a heart to love and lead your family in a great way, but you fall short. I know its a process, and I’m growing, but recently I decided to take my commitment to my family to the next level.
Being in the home isn’t always enough
What I’ve learned in writing, blogging, speaking, and living is I am not the only man who struggles like this. Although we may not fall into the statistics of fathers who are not present in the home, we still struggle in the home.
We struggle with embracing how important our role is at home. We sometimes struggle with the weight of the responsibility we have as a man, as a husband, and as a father. And we struggle with our own expectations, as well as those society places on us.
Our family has been homeless, in debt, and sometimes had no idea what direction to take. All under my watch. I’ve had many “look in the mirror” moments where I wasn’t happy at all with what I saw. But my family has never given up on me. My wife has been right by my side through some very rough times. And my kids still think I am the greatest despite it all. Yet, I know I can do much better.
Getting serious and getting better
So, I agreed to meet with a group of men, who struggle like me, over the course of eight weeks. Once per week, for eight weeks, we’d get together for breakfast, and to discuss a book called The Resolution for Men, from the creators of Courageous the Movie.
Each week in our private time we’d read through the different sections of the book, and every Thursday morning we’d meet at 6am to discuss. At the end of the eight weeks we all made life changing promises. These promises I made to my wife and kids were made in front of the other men, our pastor, and several members of our church.
This resolution is a big deal for me, and my family. As I said earlier, I’m not sure I deserve them or the love, joy, and respect they’ve given me. But I’m thankful for them, they have changed my life for the better, and I hope to return the favor.
Below are the life changing promises I made to my wife and kids as well as the ways my family has changed my life that I’m thankful for.
I resolve to… 1 of 22
Here are the 12 resolutions, or promises, I made to my wife and kids.
The family I am so thankful for 2 of 22
Here we are with the resolution in hand.
I’m thankful for celebrating birthdays in Disney World 3 of 22
We decided there is no better place for a 5-year-old to celebrate a birthday! So as each of our kids have turned five we took a trip to Disney and spent a week with Mickey! :) Next year our youngest kid will turn five, and we plan to do it again!
I’m thankful for family bike rides 4 of 22
One of my best parenting moments was when my son learned to ride his bike. The joy he had on his face was priceless. Now we take "long bike rides in the park up and down hills." :)
I’m thankful for making winter and snow fun 5 of 22
Nothing like sub-zero temperatures and ice covered streets. Well, not when you have your kids to play in the snow with! :)
I’m thankful for "daddy’s home!!!" 6 of 22
The absolute best feeling for a dad is coming home and being attacked at the door by kids screaming "daddy's home!" It never gets old, and I don't know what I'd do without it.
I’m thankul for date night with her 7 of 22
Being married and loving is one of the best things you can have.
I’m thankful for lounging on the couch doing nothing 8 of 22
Like father like son. Moments like these are what being a dad is all about, especially a dad with a son. :)
I’m thankful for the "family business" 9 of 22
An annual tradition in our house is to set up a lemonade stand and sell lemonade for Lemonade Day. It is a "sweet" experience (pun intended)!
I’m thankful for being a sports parent 10 of 22
Sports are big in our family. According to my wife, they are probably too big in our family. I love spending time playing, coaching, and watching the sports I love with my kids.
I’m thankful for daddy daughter time 11 of 22
All daughters hold a special place in their dad's heart. My daughter is not different.
I’m thankful for playing in the rain 12 of 22
This is pure joy!
I’m thankful for my rad and fit wife 13 of 22
Exercising and getting healthy with your spouse is amazing! Especially when you can get covered in paint!
I’m thankful for my kids keeping me young 14 of 22
This is what you do when you are watching a parade at the Magic Kingdom in Disney World. You become a kid again!
I’m thankful for (homeschool) field trips 15 of 22
One of my favorite things is watching my kids learn and discover new things, during which I sometimes learn and discover new things with them. I looked just as inquisitive as the kids!
I’m thankful for "this is the perfect place for a nap" 16 of 22
Work to do? It doesn't matter, you can come lay right here while daddy finishes his writing. :)
I’m thankful for living with super heroes 17 of 22
It is always great when Spiderman shows up to do my sons school work.
I’m thankful for a wonderful mother for my kids 18 of 22
I love her, they love her, and we are all thankful for her!
I’m thankful for Little League Baseball 19 of 22
Little league baseball was a big part of my childhood, and my sons are following suit.
I’m thankful for fun on the first day of school 20 of 22
Nothing like your first day of school each year.
I’m thankful for better "selfies" 21 of 22
Yes, son you are right. This is the #1 selfie I have ever taken. :)
I’m thankful for being called a super dad 22 of 22
As I said I make mistakes, plenty of them. But my kids still view me as a super dad!
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