The thought of being like his mother may send chills down your spine. But if you married him, you probably are very much like his mother. At least more than you think. When it comes to choosing a wife, many men marry women like their mother.
The results of a study were shared on Yahoo’s Match.com revealing that men marry women who actually resemble their mom, more than women marry men who look like their father. I’m not sure how I feel about that one, but I do believe my wife is similar to my mom in many ways. And I’m not the only one.
“I married my mother”
I say this on a regular basis to my wife. She doesn’t take offense. She knows exactly what I mean, and she agrees! My wife and mother are similar in their personalities, their gentleness, and the fact that they both married men named Jackie (I was named after my dad)!
The fact that they both married a Jackie gives them a common ground they can both relate to. I’m sure my mom warns my wife all the time what to expect.
The first woman a man will ever love
My mom holds a special place in my heart, just like every man. A man’s mom is the first woman he will ever love. Mom is the one woman who has always loved him unconditionally. And that will never change for most men. A man will always reference that love, whether knowingly or unknowingly.
That can be a good or bad thing for you. If your mother-in-law is truly the crazy one, then you know how not to love your man. If she is the perfect mom and mother-in-law, then you can learn some things that your husband will probably appreciate.
Be like her, don’t be her
You may be similar to your mother-in-law, but you are not her. And you shouldn’t try to be. Yes, learn from her. The good and bad. But you are his wife, and he is grown. He can and should be taking care of himself, not depending upon mom or his wife to do so.
If your man has some mamma’s boy tendencies and tries to get you to play that role, do what his mother should have done and cut those cords so he can grow up. Your relationship cannot grow if he won’t grow.
Do you see the resemblance?
Maybe you are one of those “just like his mom” wives. Or maybe you are polar opposites. Regardless, the relationship with your in-laws is very important. Do your very best to make the relationship work, because, no matter what, it will affect your relationship. If you need some help try these 5 things.
And if you are just like his mom — embrace it. More than likely he loves and respects her and will do the same for you.
Does it bother you that your husband may think you are similar to his mom? Why or why not?
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