According to a recent British study, unreasonable behavior is more likely to end a marriage than cheating. “Examples of unreasonable behaviour given to lawyers for divorce include an unsociable husband making his wife feel guilty when she wanted to go out with her friends; a cross-dressing husband who decided to have a sex change; and a spouse withdrawing all the family savings £40,000 and burning it in the bedroom,” The Guardian reports.
The study authors note that the reasons couples cite for divorce have changed over the last few decades. In the 70s and 80s, 29% of marriages ended because of adultery, and 28% of divorces resulted from unreasonable behavior. Now, unreasonable behavior accounts for almost half of all divorces (47%), while cheating ends 15% of the marriages that dissolve.
Christina Blacklaws, director of policy at Co-operative Legal Services (the firm that completed the study), notes that “We now see around five times as many divorces as occurred in the 50s.” That’s partially due to the fact that women have more financial independence now than they did then, and also that there’s less stigma against being divorced. So it follows that in the last century, unreasonable behavior likely always was a problem in marriages, but that wives felt there was little they could do about it without causing more harm to themselves. Blacklaws points out, though, that while “the widely held belief was that divorces were granted because of unreasonable male behaviour … there has been a marked shift over the decades, with men now five times more likely than in the 70s to be granted a divorce because of the unreasonable actions of wives.”
Story via The Huffington Post
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