Six months before her wedding, twenty-four-year-old Melissa Smith* had it all: an enviable job as Director of Sales for a popular hotel chain, love with her college sweetheart-turned-fiancé Barry, and preparations for the wedding of her dreams.
Until the day her horse, a gift from her fiancé, fell ill. She took the horse to the local veterinarian and later that night, called her best friend with some startling news.
“I think I’m in love with my veterinarian,” she announced.
“I had everything set for the wedding,” Melissa recalls. “The dress, the invitations, the bridesmaids. Everything. But when I met him, I was in awe.”
Melissa found Dr. Goodall*, a veterinarian and horse surgeon, to be handsome and witty. “He was a lot of fun,” Melissa relates. “And I was completely in love with what he did for a living.”
The next day, as she drove to her final dress fitting, Melissa’s thoughts wandered back to the doctor.
“I found myself thinking, ‘Well, if the marriage doesn’t work out, I can always get a divorce,’” Melissa remembers, shaking her blonde hair slightly. With that thought, Melissa immediately slammed on her brakes in the middle of the interstate.
“I knew right then,” said Melissa. “I couldn’t go through with it.”
Although official records on broken engagements are not kept, according to a 2003 article in Time magazine, an estimated 20 to 25 percent of engagements are broken each year in the United States. We have all heard of the pre-wedding jitters. But the decision to call off a wedding involves more than just cold feet. It’s the decision of a lifetime.
So just how do you know if a relationship isn’t right? How can you know if “the one” is the one that needs to go?
Photo credit: J & J Brusie Photography (located in Florida)