Why We're Taking the Honeymoon We Never HadChaunie Brusie
Do you see that beach there? And those two beach chairs side by side? Oh, and that lovely little alcoholic beverage beside them?
Well, come this winter, that picture-perfect beach scene will be even more perfect…
Because my husband and I will be in it.
The other day, I confessed my fears about getting pregnant again, but there was a bit more to the story than that.
One of the big reasons I’m a little apprehensive about getting our family planning skills perfected is because, for the first time ever in our marriage, my husband and I are going on a tropical vacation. For four days. With endless beaches and unlimited alcohol and our own room.
I was pretty sure that I was pregnant again this month, but after receiving a monthly visitor I can only call my BFF right now, it’s starting to sink in that this trip is really going to happen. And I know — oh, do I know — that it is going to be a very good thing for our marriage.
You see, we stumbled into the whole marriage and parenthood thing at the same time, finding out we were pregnant in college and walking down the aisle a few short months later.
And although we were gifted (very generously, I might add) with a family member’s timeshare for our honeymoon, I was pretty miserable the entire time. I definitely did not feel like a sexy newlywed, nor was I able to enjoy any refreshing beverages on the beach. And let’s just say the only action going on in our bed was me napping in it…
So when my in-laws (again, very generously, I might add) said they wanted to take their kids and spouses on a kids-free vacation this winter, we were definitely excited at the prospect of having a second chance at a getaway.
I admit that I struggled with the decision of leaving our three young children, especially for that length of time. Would that be selfish? Should we take separate flights in case one of us dies? Am I horrible mother for wanting to lounge on the beach while someone else changes my baby’s diaper?
But in the end, I’m pretty sure that this trip can only be good for us and our marriage, and ultimately, good for us as parents. Because if we aren’t strong as a couple, how can we be strong as a family unit? I work so hard to try to be a good mom and provide financially for our family as well, but I will admit that in the process, my marriage often gets put on the back-burner. There are only so many hours in a day, you know? (Sidenote: read this article by Working Mother to see what I’m talking about. Yikes!)
So it’s time for us to try to take the honeymoon we never had.
Providing I don’t get pregnant before then, of course.
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