According to a survey done in the UK, 20% of married people admitted “they felt trapped in their relationship but would not consider a divorce unless financial stability could be guaranteed.” Others said they simply lacked the courage to get divorced. Does this dynamic sound familiar? If you’re feeling trapped in a marriage that you know is over or are in a difficult relationship but are too afraid to get divorced, you’re not alone.
Here are the top 10 reasons people refuse to get divorced:
10. Fear of being lonely
9. Scared to function alone
8. Feeling guilty about leaving
7. Feeling too old to walk away
6. Not wanting to lose the family home
5. Financial fears
4. Wanting to stay together for the kids
3. Hoping things will improve
2. Worried about regret/making a bad decision
1. Lacking courage
With the exception of a few of these, most of them sound like symptoms of relationship co-dependence. There are many, many articles you can read online to help you recognize and break co-dependent tendencies. Once you can recognize and own your individual needs, finding the strength to divorce will be much easier. If you need an impartial ear as you grapple over the decision to leave, see a therapist.
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