Your Toddler at 31 Months, 32 Months, & 33 Months


Toilet Learning Recap

Potty training may prevail (or begin!) right about now. If you are a first-time parent, you are also trying to figure out how to support your child through the potty training process. It is hard to resist comparing notes with other parents with children around this age, but try. Hearing that Jayden down the street has dryly slept through for weeks will only increase your own anxiety

Just as with all other areas of childhood development, there are many individual differences—physical, emotional, and cognitive—that determine when children learn to use the potty. We know (because we have been there with our kids) that nothing is written in ink with toilet learning. Check out what the experts have to say about potty training, and keep these general trends in mind:

  • Girls tend to learn earlier than boys
  • Second and later-born kids learn earlier and faster than first-borns
  • The later the child starts toilet learning, the faster the process

Who’s the Boss?

By the end of the day, do you feel like a waiter, housekeeper, cook, and all-around personal assistant to the big cheese—your two year old? Kids at this age still haven’t the foggiest idea of another person’s perspective and want life to carry on according to their ideas and NOW. Maybe that means directing mom and dad in how their food should be placed on a plate, in what order they put on their clothes, and when they go to bed.

Well, we have been around a little longer than they have and have some tricks to make them still feel important and give you a few moments of a sanity break:

  • Hire her as your helper. For example, get her a small broom and have her sweep up the kitchen. Or, when baking (as if you have time to bake!), have her deposit some of the ingredients into the bowl. Sorting the laundry is always an adventure for a two year old. Keep tasks simple and interesting.
  • Model the words that you want her to say. When you ask her to help, use those words—please and thank you. Lead by example, and she’ll follow suit when she asks you to do something.
  • Respect her ideas. So, she may be wearing violently differently patterned shirts and pants but she thinks she is the cat’s meow—especially because she came up with the concept of her outfit and successfully executed it.
  • Give her your attention. Is there anything more frustrating than when you are talking to someone who is reading the paper or watching TV? It is not different when you are two. If you are engrossed, tell her: “Mommy is reading the paper and will be with you in one minute.” She may not understand the concept of “one minute,” but at least you have acknowledged her attempts to get your attention. Then, take the time to listen to what she has to say.
  • Choice A or Choice B. Don’t ask her to do something, such as go to bed, if it is not a choice. But do give her a choice in implementing what you need done. For example, “Would you like to walk to your bedroom or would you like to go piggy-back?” Giving her choices keeps her feeling that she is in control.