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10 Mostly Selfish But Still Totally Excellent Reasons Why I Have a Babysitter

By Meredith Carroll |

Woman drinking wine

Goodbye baby. Hello red wine my old friend.

When my older daughter was born four years ago, it took me months to consent to allow a babysitter into our home so my husband and I could go out for dinner, and only then did I agree to it because he insisted it was a special occasion (“I’ll only turn 40 once,” or some bullsh!t like that, he claimed).

We went out to a special-occasion, fancy-schmancy restaurant, and I promptly wept in my sushi and sake the entire time. I imagined my months-old infant at home sobbing dramatically because I’d abandoned her. I was convinced she couldn’t eat or sleep because I wasn’t the one feeding or rocking her. The emotional scars would be like tattoos on Rihanna — seemingly everywhere.

Turns out, I was right. Kind of. She did cry and fuss a bit, according to the babysitter, but ultimately she fell asleep. Me? Not so much. It took me a few years after that to really ever leave her with a babysitter again, and on the occasions when I did, I’d find myself lying awake at night before and after worrying, fretting and then worrying some more about every little thing that could possibly go wrong anywhere and at any time.

Four years later, I have another daughter, who is now one, but this time it only took me a matter of weeks to leave her home with someone else — anyone else, actually.

Here are 10 reasons why I have a babysitter (quite unapologetically, I might add):


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Reason No. 6 to Get a Babysitter: Red Wine

It's good for her

It’s good for her to spend time with me. But since she spends all her time with me, it’s also good for her to not spend time with me. Other people are interesting and cool.
Or at least they’re different, and different is good. Or at the very least they’re just plain different, which, as long as it’s not bad, is good.

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Meredith Carroll

Meredith C. Carroll is an award-winning columnist and writer based in Aspen, Colorado. She can be found regularly on the Op-Ed page of The Denver Post. From 2005-2012 her other column, "Meredith Pro Tem" ran in several newspapers, as well as occasionally on The Huffington Post since 2009. Read more about her (or don’t, whatever) at her website. Read bio and latest posts → Read Meredith's latest posts →

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