It has been about two months since my daughter stopped nursing completely. We had a good long run at it, nursing until she was 17 months old. It was quite the journey from hate, to love, to sadness that it was ending. When Fern first weaned herself, I cried… a lot. But it’s been a few months now and I had an epiphany yesterday.
I kind of love that I’m not breastfeeding anymore!
There are definitely some pitfalls (i.e. not having an easy way to calm her down anymore, no more snacking on the go, and less bed time snuggles) and I have seriously loved the nursing journey that Fern and I had, but that said there are definitely some perks to not breastfeeding anymore.
Here are a couple for you to consider:
10 Reasons Why I Kind of Love Not Breastfeeding Anymore 1 of 11
Breastfeeding is wonderful. But, you know what else is wonderful? Being able to wear real bras and not being a walking vending machine.
1. Non-nursing bras 2 of 11
You guys, this was what sparked my epiphany in the first place. I got fitted for a bra over the weekend. Like... a real bra with a wire and everything! It was the first time I've had a bra with a wire since I was pregnant approximately 8,000,000 years ago. (OK, really like two years, but who's counting?) I was terrified of wearing a bra with a wire because I'd read you could get clogged milk ducts, so I avoided them like the plague, but the wireless bras weren't exactly doing me and my girls any favors. So I went to Victoria's Secret and bought a bra that actually does something for my rack and it's kind of miraculous. I tried on like 20 different bras and this one is so good. My post nursing boobs were looking a little sad and this bra makes them look like non-mom boobs!
Purchase for $45.50 from Victoria's Secret
2. Overnighters with the grandparents 3 of 11
My husband and I are beyond blessed to have two sets of super involved parents that live within 20 minutes of us, and who practically beg us to have overnighters with our daughter. While I was nursing the overnighters weren't really all that relaxing for me because it involved dropping Fern off right before bed time, so I could have one last nursing session, and then rushing to pick her up first thing in the morning, so I could nurse before my boobs exploded from milk overload. But now I look forward to having her sleep over with her grandparents because it means a lovely, leisurely morning with my husband.
3. More clothing options 4 of 11
When you're nursing, dresses just don't happen... unless you're up for lifting your entire dress up over your head. Sadly, I'm just not that into that much exposure. Now I can wear whatever I want without any nursing implications. It's like half my wardrobe got a new lease on life!
4. Better boot knocking 5 of 11
My husband and I have always had a pretty good sex life, but I'll admit that I'm in the mood a lot more often now that my hormones have leveled out. More boot knocking = a happier marriage. It's science.
5. Having more than one drink 6 of 11
I'm not a huge drinker or anything, but I will admit that it's definitely nice to be able to opt for that second glass of wine or cocktail on occasion without having to worry about the effects that it might have on my milk.
6. Not having to worry about medicine 7 of 11
I rarely take medicine (as in I've only had Advil once since giving birth and no other meds aside from that), but after having a terrible cold this past winter and not being able to take Nyquil because I was nursing, I will be happy that I can do so without worrying about passing anything to Fern should another cold befall me this year. That was miserable!
7. Being able to make plans more freely 8 of 11
While breastfeeding is wonderful and absolutely worth inconveniencing your life while you're doing it, I have to be honest. It is SO nice not to have to plan life around nursing anymore. If an opportunity to travel comes up? I can say yes! If my husband and I want to go away for our anniversary? We can! If I want to go to a last minute, late night dinner right during Fern's bed time nursing session? I can! Because she doesn't have a bed time nursing session anymore!
8. Caffeine 9 of 11
I definitely still drank caffeine while I was nursing, but if I ever drank more than a cup a day, my daughter would go nuts! I'm glad that I can now have as much caffeine as my heart desires.
9. Quicker bed time 10 of 11
While I do miss the bed time nursing snuggles, having Fern's bed time routine cut in half is definitely nice. I have more time in the evenings to relax and unwind with my husband now.
10. It helps my daughter to connect with my husband more 11 of 11
My daughter is still in the "mommy phase" for the most part and basically prefers me to everyone else, but since we stopped nursing she and my husband have definitely been able to bond a lot more, which I love.
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