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10 Things I Want My Daughter to Know

By Monica Bielanko |

Porch sittin’ with my ice cream obsessed gal.

It’s hard to express your love for your kids without coming off as a supercilious, sanctimonious, smarmy McSmarmypants. You know, kinda like listening to an actor yammer on and on about their “craft.”

Oh stop already, nobody cares about your “creative process.” You’re pretending to be someone else not curing cancer.

And so it goes with parenting. Nobody really cares about how much you love your kids. So long as you aren’t dangling them off balconies or chaining them to the water heater in the basement, folks-at-large are just as happy not to hear about your life and times as a parent. Unless, maybe, you are Louis C.K. or some other funny motherclucker who happens to be a genius at satirizing parenthood.

But I am most certainly not Louis C.K. and so I’m not going to wax poetic about the great love I have for my children here. What I will do is share with you the 10 things I really want my daughter to know. The 10 things I am going to work like hell to impart to her as she grows up in this crazy-ass world.

Raising a daughter is a tricky business. As much as I want to control her environment and keep her away from that evil Barbie bitch and her big knockers and impossibly tiny waist I ultimately can’t control her exposure. As much as I want her to grow up with the self-assurance that she is unbelievably beautiful and that it really, truly has nothing to do with her appearance, I know she’s eventually going to get her hands on a damn Seventeen magazine and probably end up feeling bad about herself. Or worse, come away thinking that batting your eyes at some dude and pretending to be interested in video games or football is the way to get a guy to like her.

I saw this sweet article by Lindsay Russell on Huffington Post, what she wants her daughter to know, and decided to do the same thing for my Wylet.

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Life Lessons For My Daughter

The Day You Made Me a Mom Was The Best Day of My Life

Becoming a mama to a little girl was such a joy. I admit, I was afraid to have a girl. Being a girl is so hard and I wasn't sure I have what it takes to guide you through life and to raise you into a strong woman. But I do. While I'm teaching you you're always teaching me — I think you've taught me more than I've taught you — so who knows where I'd be without you? I don't even like to think about it.

Read more from Monica on Toddler Times:

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20 Everyday Items My Toddler Finds Fascinating

Please Let Me Wipe Your Poop! And 7 Other Sentences I Never Dreamed I’d Say Before Becoming A Mom

You can also find Monica on her personal blog, The Girl Who.


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About Monica Bielanko


Monica Bielanko

Monica Bielanko was raised on the wild frontier of late 1970's Utah. She is a recovering Mormon who married the guitar player of an unknown band. She's been married to her Babble Voices writing partner, Serge Bielanko, for the past nine years. Her personal blog, The Girl Who was in the top ten of last year's Top 50 list. Read bio and latest posts → Read Monica's latest posts →

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2 thoughts on “10 Things I Want My Daughter to Know

  1. mama says:

    That was so perfect Monica. I wish I could write it so beautifully, I would say the very same thing to you…

  2. mama says:

    So perfect Monica! Just beautiful, made me wanna bawl my head off as they are things I would Have wished for you long ago, If I had your talent and could have written them down.

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