If someone was to tell me that there is some magical formula to parenting toddlers – specifically toddler siblings – I’d laugh. And laugh and laugh and laugh. It’s not that I don’t believe in the ‘science of parenting,’ or well-researched, or experiential theories; it’s just that I think there’s a mad combining to it all. Topped off with a heavy dose of natural, gut instinct.
There was a time, not too long ago, where I was in a real dead-zone. Where I questioned my mothering skills and those instincts. Where every inch of my skin felt as though it was on fire with doubt. How’s that for magical? I reached out to the experts for advice and, honestly? I did find some solace there. Real comfort in gaining some new perspective, approaches to try out and theories to chew on.
I think the turning point for me was realizing that things will always be like this. They wax and wane; bulge and pulsate and burst from both beautiful joy and maddening frustration. I’ve just learned to accept those less than ‘blissful’ realities about parenting and there’s been some grace in even that. The kind of sticky, slimy, kicked in, smudged-up grace that you couldn’t shake even if you wanted to.
The thing of it is, I wouldn’t trade it (parenting), or them for all of the world, even on the days that a toddler tsunami has barreled through my home. I’m four years in now and have come up with a few experiential theories myself. The toddler sibling battle-zone is no place for a weakling. May the force (and some of my own tried-and-true methods), be with you.
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