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11 Common Mom Ruts (and How to Snap Out of Them)

By Beth Anne Ballance |

common mom rutsOh, mommas. You are so loved and underappreciated and frazzled and I feel for you.

Truly, I do. I’m right there in the thick of it with you.

After ranting it out about how my kid cries at drop-off and I never pee alone and I haven’t ironed a shirt in almost two years, y’all were like AMEN! HALLELUJAH! and I knew we were onto something. We’re all feeling those ruts and most folks think of “mom ruts” as just our looks and vanity – not losing the baby weight and having Michelle Duggar’s haircut. But ruts go far deeper than that – they can seep into our work life and our cooking and our sex life. Then we feel even more awful and rut-stuck and it’s a viscious cycle that keeps repeating.

So here are some awful ruts we moms face and here’s how we say “WE’RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT” like Twisted Sister:

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Common Mom Problems and Solutions

Your man wants know

And you don't want know. You know? Maybe it's that you're touched-out for the day or just tired or frumpy and feeling unsexy, but the last thing you want to do is the limbo under the sheets.

What do you struggle with as a mom?  Any other solutions?


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Beth Anne writes words & takes pictures at Okay, BA! You can also find her on theTwitters & Facebook.

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About Beth Anne Ballance


Beth Anne Ballance

Beth Anne Ballance is a born and bred Southern Belle, blogging at okay, ba and using words and pictures to celebrate the challenges of motherhood and the joy of life. You can also find her on Facebook and Twitter. Read bio and latest posts → Read Beth Anne's latest posts →

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5 thoughts on “11 Common Mom Ruts (and How to Snap Out of Them)

  1. JJ says:

    I struggle with “quality time” as a working mom – I feel like I never give 100% to anyone, ever, including my child, my husband, my job, or myself.
    Solutions? Uh, none. I feel like we’re stretched too thin. I do try to let a lot go in favor of grabbing a stolen 10 minutes to actually conversate with my husband or play a game with my kiddo. Also I guess letting go some expectations of “family life”, like all of us eating dinner together every night. It’s not pleasant or a reality with my particular 3 year old – so we eat dinner first then feed her. That way we get to chat for a hot second and then we can attend to her eating stuff. WE’ve tried things like “every night after she goes to bed we beeline for tea and conversation” but we’re too tired to force it! So… I got very little on this front.

  2. Chaunie says:

    Just shared this because it’s EXACTLY what I needed today. Thank you!!

  3. Melody says:

    This article was great, and from what i see every mum appreciates it, well done, great article

  4. Michele says:

    my situation was a little different I hit little ruts like here & there, but I really hit mine when my kids left for college. It wasn’t empty nest syndrome, it was more of when they did come home, you hear more about what you didn’t do for them or what they feel they lacked during their chldhood. Most times it is said jokingly or in fun, but it does start to sting and weigh on you. Especially when you know you did the best you could. I know they are not intentionally trying to hurt my feelings and they love me, but suddenly I find myself in a rut that is mostly experienced by new mothers. I know this may sound silly, but as I read this article, I could so relate to it all…. Thanks for letting me rant a little…..

  5. Amelia says:

    I love how this article is solution-oriented. Like most moms I can relate to all these issues but am excited to have some solutions in my back pocket now.

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