A Co-sleeping House Divided

Sometimes I come to Toddler Times with tips or parenting advice to share. This isn’t one of those times. Today I’m asking you to weigh in on an issue in my house— co-sleeping.

I’m lucky to be married to a great guy. And while we are total opposites personality-wise (Think Chandler and Monica or Bill and Hillary. Wait, never mind.), when it comes to parenting we’re generally on the same page.

Lately, though, we’ve had an on-going discussion (read: conflict) about our 3 year old’s sleeping habits. Whether she goes to sleep in her own bed or not, on any given night she usually ends up in our bed at some point. I love hearing her feet pitter patter toward our king-sized bed and how she settles down between us. I love being able to reach for her and to pat her back as she drifts off. I love how she greets me in the morning with a hug.

My husband, on the other hand, is not a fan. Last night I overheard the following:

“No, you absolutely will NOT be sleeping in Mommy and Daddy’s bed again. You kicked me all night and then I woke up this morning in a puddle of urine,” my husband told my 3 year old. She went to sleep in her toddler bed, but when it was time for me to hit the hay myself, I’ll be honest: I was tempted to bring her into my room.

I resisted the urge last night, but there’s just something about having my toddler nearby. Maybe it’s a mom thing, or maybe it’s because she’s my last baby. I know the time will soon come when she’s not interested in all that sweet together time. Puddles of urine notwithstanding.

My husband thinks I’m crazy.

(He may be right.)

Do you allow your toddler into your bed? Are you and your partner in agreement?

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Mary Lauren Weimer is a social worker turned mother turned writer. Her blog, My 3 Little Birds, encourages moms to put down the baby books for a moment and tell their own stories. Connect with her on Facebook and Twitter.


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