Confession: I Suck At Getting My Kids To Sleep For NapsNaomi Odes
I don’t get it. I can tell when my kids are tired, BEFORE they are overtired, thank you very much. Yet, the moment I try to put them down, it’s a fight to the death. Seriously, I can’t take it anymore. With Shnook, I’ve given up. He naps at school during the week, but on the weekend he refuses to stay in his room. I’ve thrown in the towel. I’ve held up the white flag. He wins. He’s already 3.3 anyway, so my guess is he doesn’t really need to nap anymore. Meanwhile, if I look at my history with him, except for a brief window from about eighteen months to two years, napping has always been a challenge for us. During that time, I was pregnant with Fuzz and would lie down with him every day. I needed that nap more than he did!
Fuzz is a whole other animal. To be fair, he could be entering the transitional phase where he drops from two naps to one, but it’s far from predictable at this point. He still seems to be really tired and cranky about 2 hours after he wakes up. BUT THEN HE WON’T GO TO SLEEP! I feel like my whole day is trying and failing to get him to nap. It’s exhausting and frustrating to say the least. Some days, he only gets a total of forty minutes of nap. People wonder why my house is a mess and I never get any work done during the day. It’s very frustrating, and although I don’t like him to cry, he cries. A lot. Even Ferber says to give up after thirty minutes for naps.
I feel that I could blame this on many things: He’s learning to walk, he’s having some kind of cognitive breakthrough, or perhaps it’s the one nap transition. Ultimately, it’s easy to blame myself for doing something ‘wrong.’ As someone who has been through the ringer with sleep, you’d think I’d just throw up my hands and be fine with whatever happens with my babies and sleep. Some days I can do that. Other days, I want to pull my hair out, I feel like I’m a failure. It’s hard.
Then I think, maybe this is really not such a big deal. Once my kids are done with this phase, they’ll be something else that will be hard. If I try my best, that’s all I can do, right? They will grow, they will survive. Maybe I shouldn’t care?
BUT NOT HAVING A BREAK DURING THE DAY IS KIND OF DRIVING ME CRAZY.
Anyone else struggle with getting their toddler(s) to nap?