I curse a lot. And while I try not to do it in front of my children, specifically my 2-year-old who is now repeating everything we say, I still end up doing it all the time.
And guess what? I’m not worried about it. I just don’t feel like swearing is high up on the list of things I need her worrying about. It’s just a word. We’re the ones that make it bad. If she blurts out a few swear words as a toddler, I don’t really care although I certainly don’t want her calling her pre-school buddies A-holes.
I guess that’s the bigger worry: the kid saying the swear word at the wrong time. As in, she calls someone a name instead of cursing because she fell. I know that sounds weird, but I’d be more bummed out that my kid is calling someone names regardless of whether it’s a curse word. Hopefully by the time Violet is old enough to understand what a “bad” word is she’ll know she shouldn’t say them. I’ll teach her that yes it’s a word that many people consider bad, so you probably shouldn’t say it. But I’m not going to be one of those parents that gets all wide-eyed and finger-waggy about it either. Again, it’s just a word. I’m saving my best finger-wagging theatrics for the drug/sex talks.
I’m kind of hoping that if I don’t make a big deal about certain words, maybe my kids won’t either. I think the biggest mistake a lot of parents make is overreacting to a child who has cursed, but doesn’t really know what they just said.
All I’m saying is I don’t make a big deal about “bad” words around these parts. And I don’t get all worked up when I accidentally drop the occasional curse word around my daughter, nor do I care when others do it either. Hell, by the time she’s 5 she’ll have heard it all, anyway. Friends, movies, even TV is chock full of “bad” words.
What about you? Are you the kind of parent who proclaims “shut up” to be a bad word in your home? Do you curse in front of your children every now and again? How do you feel about it?