This weekend I will be flying to L.A…without my daughter. This will be the first time that I have been away from her for longer than 12 hours and the first time that my husband will be completely on his own with her for their first daughter & daddy overnighter.
To clarify, Fern has spent the night at her grandparents’ houses overnight a handful of times, but each time we dropped her off pretty close to bed time and picked her up first thing in the morning, so it wasn’t for very long. And, each of these times my husband and I were together while Fern was at the grandparent’s house, so he’s never had her overnight by himself.
In our house we have pretty traditional gender roles. Craig goes to work and I stay home with Fern (I work from home, but still…). He does all the “manly” projects like remodeling our house, yard work, fixing the cars…he’s even building a massive A-frame coop for our chickens right now. Basically all things handy are his domain. I on the other hand do most of the cleaning, cooking, “domestic”-type stuff and spend the most time caring for Fern. I realize that these traditional roles aren’t for everyone, but it works for us and plays to our strengths. I’m more than happy with the set-up, but I do wonder what this weekend will be like for my husband when he’s all on his own in the domestic realm…
My husband hangs out with Fern and puts her to bed multiple times a week while I go to the gym in the evenings, so I know he’s totally capable, but now he’ll get to see what I do all day when I’m on my own. He won’t have to balance working with watching her, but there are still plenty of day-to-day things that he’ll have to do that he doesn’t ordinarily, so it’ll be a change.
I’m sure things will go great and I’m actually really excited for him and Fern to have some quality one-on-one time together. Obviously since she and I are together all day, every day she tends to prefer me (especially when she’s upset about something), but lately she’s been becoming so sweet with her Daddy. Seeing her walk up and give him snuggles and hugs has been totally melting my heart. I can’t wait to hear updates of their Daddy/Daughter adventures and maybe I’ll even convince him take photos to document their time together for a post!
Have any of you left you toddler home for the weekend yet? How did it go?
Lauren Hartmann is the founder of The Little Things We Do, a blog about life and adventures in Portland Oregon. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram or catch up on all of her posts here on Babble.
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