Raising, and living, with toddlers requires some serious parenting guts. I mean, most of us don’t really have a choice about it, but still, being the mama of a toddler is not for the faint of heart (or stomach). There are things that come up every single day, sometimes multiple times a day, that can make you seriously question your ability and competence as a mother, and things that can also make you question your own sanity. Being a mom of young children is definitely not easy!
I’ve been reading, (and writing), a lot of the posts here on Toddler Times over the past few months, about these hard things that we all are dealing with as parents of toddlers. Things like feeling like a tyrant mom, trouble with our kids sleeping, terrible twos, and many other toddler behavior issues.
And while it’s so amazing to have this wonderful community where we can share our parenting struggles, and encourage and support each other that we are not alone on this journey, I’ve also been feeling like I need to give myself, and we all need to give ourselves as mothers of toddlers, some room to breathe. We need to give ourselves some grace.
How we go about this, I’m not totally sure. I’ll definitely be one of the first ones to raise my hand and say that I’m often too hard on myself as a mother. But I feel like I’m in a place where I need to let go of some of those expectations that I place on myself, and shed some of the pressure that I have to be more, or do more, as a mother, and instead just rest and find grace in the fact that I am a mother. And a pretty good one, at that.
I kind of feel like I’m at one of those anonymous meetings where I need to stand up and say, “Hi, I’m Emily, and I am the mother of a toddler. And I am a good mother.”
Ah, that feels good. It feels freeing.
I’ll say it again, I am a good mother.
Can you say that? Can you say that you are the mother of a toddler, and that you are a good mother? Or is it something that is hard for you to think, or admit, either to yourself, or to others?
Why do you think that we might have so much trouble saying that, or especially feeling that, as we go throughout our days with these little people in our care?
Why does it feel uncomfortable, like we’re bragging, or something?
I think this is something that we could all stand to say to others, and most important to ourselves, on a more regular basis. And maybe, just maybe, after we say it enough, we might actually start to believe it. Which is a good thing, because I really believe, for the majority of mothers out there, that it is true.
We are good mothers. Let’s give ourselves the space, and the grace, to say that.
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